If Love is a Debt, How Will We Pay It? Trilogy Blogs Part 1: The Currency Of Love
Is Love Something We Owe Each Other?
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Love is one of the world’s most beautiful feelings that make life more meaningful. “It just feels so good to love!”
What if all the love we receive is a debt, where all the affection and kindness we receive and experience from someone mentally and physically is as if we are responsible for returning it to the first person who gave us that love?
“Do We Really Need to Repay Our Love Debt?” Do we owe each other something in relationships? Besides, we never sought that love in the first place.
We may wonder how to repay that love if it’s a debt…What if that debt of love can’t be repaid in the same way?
Let’s look at what it means to view love as a debt.
When we say love is a debt, it should be given and taken. We believe love is an effort and care for one another. “Like a monetary debt, love must be repaid gradually to the person we owe it to.”
Think about your relationships. Do you feel like you’re giving more than you’re receiving? Or perhaps you feel like you’re not doing enough to maintain your connection.
We often think of debt as responsibility, like love, which has lots of responsibility and sacrifices.
If love is a debt, every care, moment, and sacrifice is like paying back an amount that any material thing cannot measure. Taking responsibility for our actions and emotions within the relationship. It is our responsibility to look at our loved one’s intentions. It also implies that both partners ensure the relationship is healthy and not toxic.
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When we treat love like a debt, communication becomes the currency we use to repay it.
Consider your relationship in which your partner feels overwhelmed with work but never shares this with you. Maybe you will misunderstand why their love seems distant.
Ask yourself where you might need to catch up. If we want to repay the debt of love, we must tell your desires and expectations to your partner.
You can repay the debt of love by compromising with your partner and showing your partner that you value his passion and dream. Think about the last time you disagreed with your partner or someone you love.
This means that we need also to take time and prioritize them.
Giving time and prioritizing doesn’t mean giving up what you want; it’s about finding a balance that works for both of you.
You must understand your partner’s love language. Sometimes, yours is different from your partner’s, leading to misunderstandings.
“Maybe your partner wants to feel your love and appreciation through physical touch, and you give your love through words of affirmation.”
He may feel unloved, thinking their love isn’t reciprocated because he wants physical touch but only receives verbal encouragement from you.
I know this is a common problem, but it could impact the status of your relationship.
How we handle these conflicts can affect how we repay our love debts. even if we try to show love to your partner resentment can build up in your relationship and create emotional distance between both of you
Key Message: The debt of love can be repaid through shared responsibility!
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