Infiltrating Country Living Singles

What I learned when I went undercover in a Facebook group for lonely farmers.

Hannah Berman
Aug 25, 2020 · 8 min read
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Group Rules from the Admins. Image: Facebook.

Blending in

The only two questions that barred our entrance to the group were “What is your age?” and “Why do you want to join?” With a few keystrokes explaining our love for farming humor, we were all in.

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Proof of my age. Image: Facebook Messenger.
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A very typical post and response. Image: Facebook.
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A post I made to uphold my brand. Image: Facebook.

Meeting Mike

Mike is my favorite of the truly wild host of regular contributors to the group. I was first introduced to him when he posted this cryptic announcement, without any meme attached:

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Mike. Image: Facebook.

An unexpected opportunity

Although silly horndogs like Mike are the driving force holding this community together, tame images and scandalous comments are unfortunately not the only content that the singles post. It probably will not come as a shock that the group is pretty homogenous—essentially every single is a White, cis, heterosexual man or woman, between the ages of 50 and 70, living on a farm somewhere in rural America—and pretty often, one of them posts something that I disagree with on a political or even human level.

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More Mike. Image: Facebook.

Saying goodbye

After we had spent many months undercover in the group, I decided to give up the act. Over the time I’d been involved, I had watched Country Living Singles quadruple in size, had seen the name (needlessly) change to “Country Living Singles With Humor,” and had gotten to know many members of the group far more deeply than I’d ever intended. It was time to say goodbye.

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Our marriage announcement. Image: Facebook.
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Mike and his future beloved? Image: Facebook.

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Studying English, Italian and Education from Brooklyn NY. Read more at hannah-berman.com!

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