Is your love bounded or free?
According to the dictionary, “love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person, a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend, or a sexual passion or desire.”
But what I understand is that love is an emotion that lets you explore everything in the world but still you think about returning to that particular place which you call home. That home could either be a person, place, or a thing but something which gives you the desire to return not the obligation.
Bounded love
I think we all have faced so much in our lives that we somehow try to get all our expectations fulfilled by the one we fall in love with. It’s us who have over-hyped the concept of love. It was never complicated but we have made it so, just like life.
Like when we are friends with someone, things are less complicated, lesser expectations, and least complaints because we try to understand each other but the moment we enter the next step of being in a relationship, things become complicated and tough and less desirable. There are unnecessary quarrels between the two people as soon as they started dating. Ever thought why?
Expectations! Unfulfilled desires! Lack of understanding! Obsession! Obligation! And many more reasons! But majorly because one person tries to keep the other person bounded! And this goes on from both sides. The ways of restricting the other may vary but keeping them close and hidden from everyone and everything is the main goal. This seems to be attractive in the first few days but after some time, it creates curiosity to explore more and that curiosity appears to be the escape from the bounded life.
Free love
This is the phase of love seen in the late stages of togetherness among people because nobody believes in this one but those who do laugh at themselves for being in bounded love for so long. In this, it doesn’t matter what bond do the two people have they will always think about others over themselves. It’s difficult and different but it is beautiful. Both of them think for the betterment and growth of the other person than just thinking about being together forever.
There is a mutual understanding between the two of what are their expectations and demands for and from each other. It doesn’t mean that there are no fights among these couples but they know that communication is the key even if they don’t want to talk to each other. These couples don’t fall in or out of love, they love being in love. And because of no limits being set by the other, they don’t even want to explore the world because they have found their own little world.
Who experiences what?
It may seem like both these loves are different but actually, they are interrelated. Most people start with bounded love which involves the normal emotions of jealousy, possessiveness, dependency, togetherness but with time they realize the actual meaning of love and end up being in free love which is all about growth, patience, and belief. And very few but still some people begin with free love and don’t ever realize that the concept of bounded love even exists.
It’s always good to explore and experience everything in life but sometimes it’s better to take lessons from others to skip out those unnecessary experiences and instead built some new and better experiences for self.
The next time you put a restriction on your partner just think will that really make a difference or you’ll end up making your partner a storyteller with unusual accidents. Stay together if you love to and not only because you need to.
