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It’s Not So Easy To Follow Your Own Advice

My first viral story was the impetus

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A couple of months ago, I wrote a story about how women needed to be pro-active about learning how to do things because one day it is very likely they would find themselves alone. To my surprise, the story quickly gained thousands of views and I realized that there were many women ( and men too, it seems) who were secretly worried about exactly this scenario. Others responded by saying how they wished their mother had been given this advice, and how it would have made life so much easier if she had.

You can read the story here. Be Prepared To Live Alone. That is, if you are an older woman | by Carol Price | Crow’s Feet | May, 2021 | Medium

As I headed out to the front gate today to try to unearth the water stopcock that the telephone engineers had recently buried, I thought I would do a quick check on how I was doing with the list I had written not having really considered my own personal circumstances.

  1. Stop relying on my husband. He hasn’t been as fit recently due to a problem with his hip, so I have taken over some of the tasks. Cutting the grass, clearing out blocked drains and then of course there was the memorable episode when I went up on the roof to seal a leak.Over all, I am not doing too badly in this category. It Turns Out I’m Not Really Cut Out To Do Roof Repairs | by Carol Price | Crow’s Feet | Medium

2. Being assertive. Not much opportunity to practise this on real live people as the pandemic has reduced social contacts, but I do try to hold my own on telephone conversations. Could do better.

3. Stand up for the local community. I certainly look out for wildlife in distress. I would help anyone if they asked me, but living in a fairly isolated situation hasn’t provided much opportunity for community engagement. I pick up litter on my walks. Could do better.

4. Maintain outside links. Life is beginning to get back to a semblance of normal. I keep in regular contact with friends on video call and have begun to arrange to meet up with people. Doing as well as could be expected.

5. Internet proficiency. I am learning all the time and gaining skills. Doing well.

6. Know where important things are. I know where the water tap is in the kitchen, and as I mentioned above, I have exposed the stopcock again after it had been covered over. I know where the electricity meter is. Doing well.

7. Make friends with neighbours. Not having many hasn’t stopped me getting to know those that I can. I still want to make contact with other local people. Work in progress.

8. Bank accounts. All our household expenses come from a joint account and I have access to this online. Other accounts I know how to find the information for. Doing well.

That wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to do an annual reappraisal of my progress. I still need to become a bit more proficient with simple DIY tools, though I can proudly say that I am well trained in the use of gardening implements.

How will I perform with these tasks as I get older? That is the million dollar question.



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