Letting go with the rule of 3
A simple rule that will make it easier for you to let go, of what you otherwise would hold on to.
From holding on like glue to letting go like a pro — my life journey has been a whirlwind.
I treasured friendships, and relationships to an extent that I felt I had to do anything in my power to keep it alive and kicking. Result? Well, you all know it :). Being taken for granted, being perceived as clingy, being hurt, and much more.
Every time I would give myself a chance, saying that this time, it will be better. And every time I would land on my face, with the same pattern of events. Until I realized that I am definitely missing something huge here.
Life was hurting me at the same place again and again because I was making the same mistake again and again. Basically, I had to learn to let go. That was the only way I would survive, shine and be at peace. And it was perhaps the toughest challenge for me — unlearning all the beliefs I had fed to myself, out of perhaps sheer selfishness.
I created a rule of 3 — to overcome this issue. Basically, if you like someone, and want to meet them, ask them at 3 random times. And if there’s no response, no favorable action, just let it go. Walk away. This works for friendships, relationships, and everything else. Why?
- 3 random times means you have covered probabilities (mostly) of the person having a bad day and given enough chance to get back
- It stops you from going overboard and becoming clingy
- It is a clear indicator for you to move on — because anything beyond 3 will mean you are wasting your time. What has to come to you, will come eventually
- It keeps you focused and it gives you the weird power of walking away at your own will. You don’t get pushed around, rather you walk away.
I am not saying this is a golden rule, but for those who find it tough to let go- it is a good rule to try. It will save you from hurt and it will save you from unnecessary strategy and overthinking.
Try it. Tell me how it goes. 3 times and done :)
