Misguided: How Anxiety Can Distort Love
Anxiety is a physiological and mental force. A set of symptoms ranging bothersome thoughts to endless ruminations and a sense of discomfort to a full on panic attack, it is a behaviour driver — meaning it can influence how we show up in our lives. For example, in the face of the discomfort anxiety brings, do we face the anxiety, or do we run from it? Are we one in the same with our anxiety, or is it a part of us we can sense, but still maintain autonomoy over our direction?
Whatever the case, we need to have awareness over when we feel anxious, as it may unconsciously be driving us towards people or things we otherwise wouldn’t pursue, if we weren’t so driven by fear.
No less is this more important than in our relationships.
Anxiety In Dating
There are few areas that can trigger us more than in relationships. I remember hearing by Mark Groves, a human connection specialist, that relationships are like mirrors and I couldn’t agree more. There have been times I’ve felt good and stable on my own only to be thrown through a whirlwind when a romantic relationship comes my way.
Relationships bring up thoughts, feelings and underlying beliefs that we otherwise may be able to ignore or distract ourselves from if we were on our own. In relationships, it’s no longer our own…
