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Owning Your Judgmental Side
Understanding the psychology behind it and why we judge others
“A word of advice is, when you judge someone, it doesn’t define the person that you’re judging. It defines you.” — Tulisa
Judgy Jenn is my alter ego, which I rely on in unpredictable situations or when trying to avoid a potentially dangerous situation. However, I can sometimes jump to conclusions, leaving me feeling ashamed.
For instance, it could be meeting someone new and thinking that I wouldn’t connect with them because of preconceived notions, only to find out they were way cooler than I ever imagined.
Judgmentalism is a natural defence mechanism. As a survival instinct, the ego tries to protect itself from others, keeping us isolated and separated.
Although this defence mechanism can be helpful in potentially dangerous situations, it can also create a false sense of self-worth by making us feel superior and avoiding our own faults by pointing them out in others.
Psychology of judgment
A judgmental mindset can poison one's outer and inner worlds, leading to disconnecting from others, feeling isolated, and surrounding oneself with negative…
