Protecting One’s Inner Peace
Have you ever heard the phrase and popular statement, “don’t let anyone steal your peace?” I have been familiar with that advice for some time now. I hear it on an almost regular basis in the line of work I’m involved with. It’s a simple and short statement, but at the same time, it represents a multi leveled philosophy. It’s something great to consider when looking for good life skills. It goes together well with most of the topics I continue to cover.
It seems so common for many of us to regularly allow other people to take our mindset out of something peaceful, and bring us quickly to an anxious, flustered mental state. And it’s not just happening from people we know.
So many of u can just as easily allow strangers to yank our peace right out of us, which I think can sometimes feel even worse than when it happens by someone we know. I know that, because it has so often happened to me. And to be honest, I just had this experience again, recently. It was what sparked the motivation to write this article.
We get so caught off guard by strangers who are living in their own misery. It gets us off our guard, because its predictability is of almost impossible to foresee.
When the thought of all of this is put into perspective, it could seem as if people wouldn’t be as negatively affected by a stranger pissing them off, as it would if a loved one we actually cared about did. But I think it’s just as difficult and upsetting either way.
In my own journey of self change, a majority of my focus has been the lessons learned about the negativity in which an agitator has within themselves. The type of thing where a miserable person, works hard to have their own inner torment reflected onto others. They live with a goal to spread their misery, since after all, misery loves company.
Miserable people feel rather intimidated by others who are not miserable themselves.
For the longest time, I allowed other people’s toxicity to control the way I felt in my daily life. I would take on other people dark negativity, and I’d allow many days of mine to be ruined. It was as if I was handing over total control to another person’s hands.
Our own inner peace is one of the most valuable core strengths we can carry within ourselves. Considering what it does, and what it really takes to become present makes its value quite priceless.
It becomes something that reflects one’s inner strength. And while all of this is something that none of us want to lose, the whole foundation of inner peace can be rattled to its core in an instant.
We can be thrown off guard, so quickly, because many times our peace is attacked, at times where we aren’t always prepared. It turns us to self inflicted anger because if only we had been ready and prepared, could we had then fought back successfully, without our peace getting knocked down. That seems to be the way it’s all thought about.
So, what I have discovered is, the process to figure out is how to find stability and security for our own peace. Without having to feel like we are living and breathing in a high level of security, where we can’t even find the calmness to be relaxed in that state.
Can we keep guard of what’s important, without having to feel as if we are on a constant, high edge guard duty?
After all, what enjoyment can we find in our peace, if we have to continuously keep acting like we are fighting a war on an erratic battlefield just to barely hold onto that peace? Getting to a determination with this, is really what the entire mission should be about.
It goes back to that whole reliable and trust practice of mindfulness that I so often preach about. Don’t allow mindfulness to get unfocused or unraveled. Be mindful of the inner peace you’ve worked so hard to establish, and remember the risk to lose it is has absolutely no worth.
Remaining mindful in a time when our peace is being attacked is one of the best ways to assure that one does not go head on, into defeat.
Don’t let anyone steal your peace.
Thank you for reading.
By Michael Patanella
is a Trenton, New Jersey Author, Publisher, Columnist, Editor, Advocate, and recovering addict, covering topics of mental health, addiction, sobriety, mindfulness, self-help, faith, spirituality, Smart Recovery, social advocacy, and countless other nonfiction topics. His articles, publications, memoirs, and stories are geared towards being a voice for the voiceless. Hoping to reach others out there still struggling.