Rejection Sensitivity and How I’ve Learned To Manage It

Joe Gibson, Above The Middle
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6 min readJun 6, 2024

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The fiery feeling in your chest. A deep sense of sadness. The anxiety of potentially never getting what you’ve longed for and the anger at not being enough.

Rejection hurts. There’s no two ways about it.

But some of us are more sensitive than others. Whilst one person can take rejection in their stride and move on to bigger and better things, others have the tendency to ruminate their pain and allow it to deepen their insecurities, leading to self-fulfilling prophecies.

This use to be me. Highly sensitive to rejection, practically petrified of it, and avoiding it any costs — albeit to little success. Ironically, having a deep fear of rejection only seems to bring more of the same. Same people, same situation(ships), same outcomes.

So how do we turn our luck around? How can we decrease our sensitivity to rejection, save us being knocked down by it for months or even years on end?

There are a couple things I like to keep in mind that I wanted to share with you today. Here is how I manage the prospect and experience of rejection when it comes to dating and relationships.

1. Recognise That Rejection Is Inevitable, However Un-rejectable We Try And Be

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Joe Gibson, Above The Middle
ILLUMINATION

Your path to authentic love and secure relationships starts here. Above The Middle, a blog by me, Joe Gibson.