Sabotage In Relationships: When Pressure and Limiting Beliefs Become Too Much

When we don’t feel secure within ourselves, we’ll almost always look outwards for others to save us.

Joe Gibson, Above The Middle
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I’ve been thinking a lot about my recent breakup and where things went wrong for me. I wasn’t happy with how things ended: tarnishing a good relationship and hurting someone who cared about me and gave me nothing but love.

It truly felt like my first secure relationship. I was met with honesty, kindness, and a willingness to be met in the spaces I rarely let someone see. It felt intimate and in all honestly weird as I’d previously entertained connections that had no hope of reaching that level of depth. Subconsciously, I don’t think I even wanted anyone to get to know me at that level.

But I got myself into a position where I did, and I let go of my desires to entertain fleeting connections in the process. I don’t think I’ll ever return to that space again, not with the knowledge that I have now of what a good relationship can be like.

That doesn’t mean I still don’t have my issues, however.

I hurt someone, and I have to live with that regret.

On reflection, there were still some things I needed to sift through in my…

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Joe Gibson, Above The Middle
ILLUMINATION

Your path to authentic love and secure relationships starts here. Above The Middle, a blog by me, Joe Gibson.