Saying no to what you don’t want
The only way to get what you want in life
1) No reason to say yes.
“No” is a positive word in my dictionary. The only way to get what you want in life is saying “No” to what you don’t want.
Easier said than done, practice makes it perfect.
Once you realize you are not here to please people or care about how other people think and once you know pleasing people gets you nothing rather than being used or looked down, you get better at saying “No”.
2) Say no politely.
“No”s don’t need to be rude. Either said to someone else or to you by yourself, a gentle approach would be so much better.
When you say no rudely, the chances of them getting this personal gets higher. Saying no politely is the briefest way to do it.
We live in a culture that when you say stupid to a stupid person or when you point out a stupid idea, it’s considered rude. Even if you do this politely, without using the word “stupid” it’s considered rude.
3) Saying no to distractions
Time is the most valuable asset.
Saying no to distractions is like fitness. You get better when you’re doing it for long. Your mind gets fitter when you’re doing it for long. It’s a great skill that you should practice.
You wanted to “impulse watch” a youtube video instead of doing some work? Started to watch without even realizing? Just say no and close the window without even hesitation. I like to do that a lot.
There are movies that I started and after 7 minutes of watching I decided I don’t like it, quit immediately and didn’t regret any of them no matter what others say.
Next time quit it before you start it.
4) People as distractions
Somebody trying to make you do their work while claiming that is a career opportunity? Just say no.
I live in a country where people think they are visionaries in your own profession while they don’t even know what they’re talking about.
I’ve seen tens of people thinking their idea worth something and want you to implement their idea as an app or site and they think they deserve money just because they had “an idea of an app”. They want to be business partners etc. It’s like saying: “I have the idea: You become a football superstar. Give me a percent of stake when you become one 😂.”
Or there are “fake boss”es who are entitled in personality and want their shit do be done. But they are lacking the money or the willpower to give money 😂.
There are some actual (fake) bosses in Turkey who say “You do the software first and money is easy, we’ll talk the money later, i have 20 years of experience, i am teaching you the job” etc. You can say that this guy and their business (if there is any real business) is gonna fail 100%. With you or without you. Guys like these are total failures. Never seen anybody succeed like this. If somebody is trying to make others work for free or cheaper than industry standards(which is also called scamming), failure is imminent. No other chance. I’ve never fallen for this, but they are everywhere.
And there are the entitled ones. They don’t try to make you work for their sake, but they give unsolicited advice with lacking technical background. Or just lacking sense. They just don’t make sense. They feel inferior and give advice to feel superior. There comes another great recipe to fail, as if it’s needed.
Staying away from these people is a huge life upgrade.
5) Doing less is more.
In most of the cases you don’t need to do more. You need to do less in life, to get ahead.
I learned (actually realized that I already knew) this from Darin Rios. A motivator that I encountered on social media. I don’t know the guy IRL but I can tell he has the ability to see things that others don’t.
Minimalism is the key. And will be more significant in the next couple of decades. You can say that while chatting with ChatGPT or other AI. Half of my messages are: “Short please. Shorter! Short!”
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