Should Taking Unreasonable Responsibilities for Someone be Considered Love?
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When someone puts you in charge of making them happy or fulfilling their sweet demands you may consider it an honor that someone had given you the power to influence someone’s state of mind, but it has certain downsides too that you cannot ignore. If a person is making you responsible for things that are supposed to be taken care of by themselves as an adult, it’s beyond the boundaries of a healthy relationship.
When someone gives you certain authority over them that is quite unusual as an adult, they are subtly giving you accountability for their well-being too, if something bad happens with them you too are going to be responsible for that. There are very subtle boundaries that separate healthy responsibility from taking full accountability for an irresponsible person which you have to keep looking.
Such people are irresponsible because they don’t want to be accountable for what’s happening in their lives, and if you take responsibility in the name of love, they’ll make you accountable for their emotions, failures, and misfortunes.
On the contrary, if something good happens to them it’s because they’ve worked hard and done good deeds; this exception is because being irresponsible is a selfish trait and that trait gravitates to other areas of life too. It’s like if anything good happens they are lucky and hard working and if something bad happens it's because you didn’t take things properly and failed to take care of them.
They’ll use value scalping, social scalping, and various other tactics to have an upper hand over you and to make you believe that you owe them a favor. They will convince you to decide in their favor because they aren’t sure that it’s the right thing to do, they want someone to be accountable and to face the misfortunes together.
Also, they tend to force you to make decisions as they want, they’ll try their best to convince you, you may think what’s wrong about it, and may start to consider it adorable but you failed to acknowledge that it’s you who is going to face the blame if anything bad happens. Such traits are acceptable for children only, they are the one who deserves them; an adult should be mature enough to acknowledge the duties of his own.
Being responsible for someone’s unusual needs and facing obligations in the name of love is not the right thing to be there in a relationship, such traits remain unacknowledged because they recite under the paint of “you love me so you are supposed to do it”.
“In your area of responsibility, if you do not control events, you are at the mercy of events” -Harland Svare
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