Six Ways To Get Along Peacefully With Your Partner While Quarantined
When the Coronavirus Pandemic first broke, the general public immediately went into panic mode. Grocery hoarding began, the governmental blame games increased, and in some cases, fistfights broke out over everyday items such as toilet paper and antibacterial hand soap.
Now that the majority of the planet is on lockdown, it’s easy for tempers to flare from frustration while being cooped up at home. However, this is the time that we need to be the most patient and mindful of one another. Although it can be challenging to remain positive during times of crisis, it’s still possible to coexist peacefully during the quarantine by following these six steps:
1. Practice Patience And Understanding. We all respond differently when faced with uncertainty. The current pandemic is stressful for everyone, but our coping mechanisms vary. One partner may be paranoid and hyper-vigilant, while the other is less cautious. It’s crucial to find a balance that works for both. For instance, one person can bring humor and levity to the situation while the other spouse does what is needed for the family to stay safe and healthy.
2. Anticipate Disagreements. When there are significant disruptions in our daily routine, feelings of anxiety and depression may flare, especially for people who already have a predisposition for mental health issues. Accepting that an upheaval such as the COVID-19 quarantine triggers emotions, it’s important to have a set plan in place to deal with symptoms caused by stress overload. If you or your partner are overwhelmed by the changes, state what you are feeling and openly discuss what type of support is needed to help you feel better, whether that means distancing yourself for a few hours, going for a walk, or chatting online with a friend. Respect each other’s need for space and limit the things that might trigger fear and anger.
3. Be Kinder And Understanding With Each Other. Amid a crisis, it’s easy to become distracted and revert to negative ways of coping with stress. We become more critical, irritable, and impatient, snapping at our loved ones with hurtful remarks. When you feel as if you are about to lose it, take a few deep breaths, and think about what you want to say before you open your mouth. Remember, your partner is just as frustrated as you. Words can hurt, and once they’ve been spoken, they can’t be taken back. A little kindness and empathy will go a long way in keeping the peace in your relationship.
4. Practice Self-Care. A crisis can bring out the best or the worst in us. If you are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, it’s easy to slip into bad habits — -stress eating, or not eating enough, spending too many hours in front of the television and not getting enough sleep — -all things that can seriously alter our mental well-being. It’s important to stick to your regular, pre-Coronavirus pandemic routine:
*Eat healthy foods, adding more fresh fruits and vegetables if available.
*Limit alcohol intake
*Get plenty of sleep, at least 8 hours a day.
*Exercise often. The gyms are closed, but you can still go for a walk outdoors or do online workouts.
*Decompress each day by reading a good book, meditating, or plugging into your favorite tunes.
5. Give Each Other Space. Just because you and your partner are stuck at home all day, it doesn’t mean you have to be together 24/7. No matter how close a relationship is, everyone needs their space. Give yourself and your partner some healthy time apart. If your spouse wants to binge-watch Netflix, but you’re tired of the television, sit outside for a bit by yourself and soak up some sun or go for a walk. When you’re ready for company, find something to do together that you both enjoy — board games, skyping with long-distance friends, cooking together — -whatever lifts your mood and helps you stay emotionally connected.
6. Count Your Blessings. We are all on edge during this pandemic, but now is the time to reflect on all that we have and to be grateful. If you have your health, food on the table, a roof over your head (and plenty of toilet paper!), you are fortunate. Rather than dwelling on the things you can’t do during the pandemic, look to the positive aspects instead. While Mother Nature takes a much-needed break, this is your chance to spend quality time at home with your family. This is a great time to clean and organize your house, tackle projects that you’ve been putting off, or picking up a new hobby. There are also dozens of free online courses being offered from various universities to keep you busy and plenty of Audible downloads available at no cost.
Remember, the pandemic will not last forever, but we are in it together. If you keep a positive attitude, you’ll come through these trying times stronger, happier, and with a deeper appreciation for all that you have.