That One Person

Over others or along with others?

I always believed that it’s important to have a different set of people around you to make your life better. You can share emotions with one and adventures with others. Art with one and studies with other but maybe that’s not all true. As you grow up in life you try to find that one person who can fill all the spots. You don’t need many people to make you feel special but that one person’s compliment can make your day brighter. And somehow your life starts revolving around that person and everyone else fades away. No matter what other people try to do or say but that doesn’t interest you at all. The cravings are for that one person.

Is it wrong?

It may feel wrong at times. You may feel that you’re doing injustice to others but there’s nothing you can do about it. Even if you try to make things better for all, you will end up suffocating or over-burdening yourselves with unnecessary pressure. You may put as much effort as you want to prove to everyone that they all matter the same to you when you all know that’s far from the truth. And in making everyone feel equally important, what if you lose that one person as he thinks that maybe he’s not the one for you?

Back-up is good, but with people also?

You have always been told to have Plan B in life with everything, but is this valid with the people too? It is really fine to have someone in your life just in case everyone else leaves you? Isn’t that offending for that person to be remembered just when you have no one around you. You might have neglected this if you’ve made few back-ups in your life but think as the one who’s been made the back-up by you. Doesn’t it feel like playing with someone’s emotions because of your personal insecurities?

We have got into a habit of living a life where we want a lot of open options and sticking to one person is considered as something outdated. And obviously, no one likes to be called outdated or boring by others. But are you sure that their definition of boring is right universally? Or is it just a few people who have judged you based on their small life experiences? And is it worth trying hard to get rid of that image? Think before you fall into this trap of fitting everywhere. It’s okay to sometimes be the misfit and leave than just trying to fit in and lack in fulfilling the expectations.

Decide for yourself

And whatever it is, whether you want to have that one person or you want back-ups in your life, that decision should be yours and only yours. Don’t let anyone decide for you. The only reason being that you have to ultimately deal with the consequences. So if you are waiting for that one person, keep doing. Don’t just hurry up. Good things take time and maybe longer than you can think, but don’t just be with someone as an escape from reality. It’s difficult to make that last longer.