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The 3 Best Dating Books for Men in Their 20s and 30s
I started to succeed with women pretty much from the moment I admitted that I had no idea what I was doing.
As in most areas of our lives, it matters whom we choose to emulate, and from where we choose — consciously or not — to get our information; and my lack of results with women was proof to everyone except me that the information I was getting was dead wrong.
Now, I wasn’t completely hopeless — I was confident and kind, and definitely not ugly (no one should call themselves good-looking); I opened doors for women and asked them questions about their lives (that I actually cared about the answers to); I even went out of my way to make women feel comfortable around me and to show them a good time.
But I wasn’t getting the results in my dating life that I truly wanted, and after reading these 3 books, I was able more clearly to see why.
For example, it used to be a complete mystery to me why, when I told a woman I just met that I drove an expensive sports car (which was true), the lights of attraction would instantly shut down, and her eyes would, in some cases, literally glaze over.
I mean, have you ever seen someone’s eyes glaze over? I had never seen that before. But it was happening every time I opened my big fat stupid mouth. It was actually quite…