The 3 Main Qualities You Should Be Looking For In Friends Right Now
I can say with absolute conviction that we’re here in this world to experience life as is — and while at it, become better versions of ourselves and improve the world around us the best we can.
That statement speaks one word — Growth.
As a human, that’s your core purpose.
Do crazy shit — laugh/cry. Grow.
Go through hell on earth — cry, learn. Grow.
Go through good breezes — laugh, be grateful. Grow.
Every single thing you do is an opportunity to experience this amazing life and grow.
So, your primary goal right now should be to immerse yourself in as many experiences as possible.
Experience life.
Embrace the best and worst. And Grow.
As you’re growing as a person, you need to surround yourself with like minded people.
Life sucks without friends to cry or laugh with. People to build us, motivate us and simply be there with us during our best and worst moments.
The relationships you make at this point should be with people who build you up and also willing to be there years to come.
This is a time to build meaningful relationships.
Someone who’s okay clubbing with you, but also there for you when you’re building your business or going through a bad breakup.
Here Are The 3 Most Important Qualities To Look Out For Right Now
First off, it’s important to know that you should have these qualities too.
Like-mindedness remember?
To get a high quality friend, be a high quality friend.
1: Integrity
People with integrity are very self respecting humans. They know their self worth, respect others, are trustworthy and quite honestly the only kind of people you want to associate with.
These are the kind of people who make life easier because they walk their walk.
Their life is modeled on their character which makes them very reliable.
If such a guy says they’ll go with you on a trip, be assured the trip is happening.
To them, No means no. Yes means Yes.
ProTip: It makes sense to be a person of integrity too. These people don’t associate with others of questionable characters so unless you improve your character, forget this.
2: Strong Personality
I’ve learnt that in this life, you need a strong support system to tide through when life gets shit.
Find friends with a strong personality. Those who aren’t afraid of being themselves. Of doing what they love.
Those who take the front seat of life and get through with it even when life gets hard.
Find friends who take on life despite every challenge. Those with a warrior, fearless and strong spirit.
Ugh, it’s so difficult to explain this in words, but you get it.
People who tell life, ‘bring it on’ and take on every challenge despite their fears.
And if you’re not one yourself, build yourself to be one.
Nobody likes meek, insecure, overgrown crybabies.
3: Growth Mindset
People with a growth mindset are okay to challenge themselves. They don’t mind putting themselves in uncomfortable situations just to get better.
These are the real lovers of life. They understand that life is all about growing and experiencing.
Embracing the good and learning from the bad.
Whether someone is learning a new skill or running from snakes in the Amazon, all these are simply experiences. Growth opportunities.
Learn to embrace discomfort.
And surround yourself with people who embrace discomfort.
Discomfort = Experiences = Growth.
Why Surround Yourself With These People
- They’re loyal and supportive as long they consider you worthy of their friendship.
- They have High IQ and EQ. This means they don’t spew any rubbish that comes from their minds. And also, they can control their emotions.
- They’re drama free.
- They don’t put you down. If they don’t like you, they leave.
- They’re resilient and tenacious. They do what needs to be done despite their insecurities or fears.
- Respectful. You can laugh and do all kinds of weird together and they’re still give you respect. They know being closer to someone doesn’t give anyone the ticket to disrespect another.
- Focused. They’re dedicated to their priorities and will accomplish what they set to do.
By default, people with these qualities are very high quality friends.
They’re loyal and as long as you prove you’re also a high quality friend to them too, they’ll always be with you through every phase of your life.
Save yourself the hassle of losing friends every month because you no longer vibe.
Find friends with these qualities and see how much your life improves.
You get better, grow faster, less drama and generally experience more of life with amazing company.
Life becomes more fun and absolutely worth it. And if you’re lucky, these relationships may last forever.
