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The Ambivalence Of Procrastination

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I am confident in saying that Procrastination is probably quite common in the average daily life, of the average person. We all do it. And we all do it at many different levels. It can certainly negatively affect our lives, if it gets up to levels that are problematic, “as it can resemble addictive behavior, and become a detrimental habit.” It can stall any type of positive progression. It has the ability to take over all of our time, that we normally could be using to do thing more constructive things. There are multiple points to consider when looking at Procrastination, points that are wise to keep as fresh as possible in our thinking.

Like already mentioned, one of the major points is, Procrastination is “universal, and sometimes even a useful human behavior.” I agree, and I believe that I have seen some form of procrastination on some level in every human being I have known. Some of it useful, as it can sometimes turn into personal motivation, or some of it so minor that it isn’t a concern, and then there are the times where it is just awful for us. It can interfere with job performance, it can interfere with relationships, and it can interfere with the quality, and progress of improvements needed for a household, or family. Also, in relation it has been known to be ways for people to perform self-sabotage. Both consciously, and subconsciously.

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As Smart Recovery says, “like anything else, if it is extreme, it is potentially harmful, There are plenty of examples, and an idea of one that could be harmful; if you procrastinate on filing and or doing your annual taxes, and you end up waiting, and starting them last minute, you can easily run out of time, and April 15th will come, and go, and we will be stuck with completely unnecessary penalties. Simple enough sure, but when we start having all kinds of multiple “minor” bouts of procrastination; we really risk creating events whose size and risk just grow. What starts as something small, and manageable, ends up, totally unmanageable.

Another pint to procrastination, is that “it can be associated with trying to avoid strong emotions, such as anxiety.” That relates closely to my example above; we procrastinate, because we compare those activities we are avoiding as possibly those that create anxiety.

However, what we aren’t realizing, is that by not doing those activities, or by delaying them, there is the chance, that we may be creating more anxiety, then would be made by just getting the activity over with. Most likely, those things are not just going to disappear, and they’re still gonna have to be faced anyway. Putting them off is solving nothing. It’s only adding to a negative. That may not even be as much as a negative as we’re imagining.

So, Going by the ol reliable of mine, the Smart Recovery Workbook, there is a point in the Procrastination section that says, “Procrastination can be a signal that you lingering ambivalence about recovery.

In other words, we care, we want to have a successful recovery and sober life, yet at the same time, we hate the thought of attaining that. I understand the feeling. I can relate to that struggle of hating addiction, yet loving the using. It is hard to explain, and justify, as there really just is no excuse for it. Procrastination can absolutely be evidence of that ambivalence.

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The next point relates to procrastination’s ability to interfere with, and “weaken your ability to achieve your goals.” That is cut and dry.

Many goals and dreams can be squashed or forever paused when it comes to procrastination. Things that we are just lazy towards, or maybe we just don’t believe enough in ourselves to bother trying, or taking those few extra strides forward. That is a shame, and its sad that sometimes we don’t see that we are ever so close to success with goals, yet we stop a couple steps too short

It’s should see crystal clear the harm that can encompass procrastination. Above, the word we used was ambivalence, and I think that is a main reason for procrastination, and it is the main reason that we really need to work hard and overcome this type of human problem. Ambivalence towards our recovery, or just plain success in general can be a tough task to defeat, but it’s a task that’s not impossible to defeat.

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Thank you for reading!

-MICHAEL PATANELLA

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