The Art of Asking & Receiving
{4 keys to getting what you want in life}
Did you know that you can get what you want in life, you need only learn one simple skill.
How to Ask.
This simple skill will get you unimaginable things. Of course, you have asked for things in life before, then how come you never got some of the things? Because you’ve been asking the wrong way.
There is an art to it.
The wrong way
Most of you don’t get what you ask for because, when asking, you complain. Instead of requesting what you desire, you approach the whole issue from a negative perspective. Most of you tend to focus on what you lack.
While asking, you state what you are lacking rather than stating what you need. You complain about all the things that you thought you deserved which landed on other people and not you. This is dangerous since it imprints a scarcity mentality. If you continue down this path, you begin to believe that when someone else is blessed it comes at a cost to you. You believe that good things are limited and that one has to has to mis out for another to get it, which is not true.
Moreover, you rarely express gratitude for what you already have. Most of you view every process of asking as a zero-sum scenario where you either get all you asked for or nothing at all. However, this is not the case. The process of asking is incremental. You can get a portion of what you require first, then over time more is added as you use what you already have to the best of your abilities. Lack of gratitude will cost you so many things in life. It will affect even your ability to be happy in life.
Furthermore, your behavior after asking is important. Most of you show impatience. This means you usually doubt that you’ll receive what you requested. You become pessimistic as time goes by. This is a sign of little faith.
“Patience is not simply the ability to wait — it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” Joyce Meyer
The right way.
When asking you need to focus on these four things to succeed:
1. Have faith: Ask like a child, believe like a child. To get what you need, you need the faith of a child. Believe that anything is possible and that no request is too great. No matter how slim the odds seem to be, focus on the probability that you’ll get what you asked for.
2. Be specific: Be as precise as possible, and quantify what you need. You need to show effort and seriousness in your request. To do so, you ought to be crystal clear on your needs. There is a big difference between saying you need your first car this year and saying you are going to buy a black Toyota Camry by August this year. Research what you want and be as specific as possible.
3. Expect to receive: After you are done asking, behave as if you are going to receive it. Prepare yourself for the receipt. Put yourself in a postition to get what you asked for. If you prayed for a car, begin creating room for a garage. Take on a refresher course on driving. I have a habit where I start physically preparing myself to receive whatever I desire in life.
For instance, I usually start shipping all the accessories to the phone I intend to buy, months before I can afford to buy it. By the time I buy the phone, I usually have like three cases in the house and around five different types of screen protectors.
4. Be grateful: Express gratitude for what you already have. Be appreciative of all the things that are going well in your life. Then build your request from that. Start on a positive note. Remember, even when you need something, it doesn’t mean you have nothing. You are not starting from zero. Be grateful for what you already have, and more will be added.
Conclusion
The art of asking is essential for you to receive.
Think of it this way, if you have twins in your house; Mark and Luke. Both need toys. Mark’s usually a sweetheart always grateful for the little he has, and is understanding when he doesn’t get what he asks for.
Meanwhile, Luke over here is extremely ungrateful. Always complains about what he lacks and compares what you buy against what he wishes he had that you couldn’t get for him.
Which of the two are you inclined to buy more toys for?
Next time you’re asking, try the above tips and let me know how that goes.
From yours truly,
GP.
