The Burn
Viewers of the Netflix series Bridgerton were mesmerized by the Duke of Hasting’s romantic monologue to the queen. He eloquently narrated how a love that burns with passion and desire had been nurtured from an amazing friendship. Of course to feel that burning passion, there must be physical chemistry. The physical connection may strike like a bolt of lightning, or it may not be evident at the beginning of a relationship. However, that doesn’t mean the connection will not evolve.
If you are looking for that burning passion in a lasting intimate relationship; friendship is the optimal foundation. The writer Yung Pueblo quotes,
“ One of the biggest joys in life is activated by friends you connect with on an undeniably deep level. There is a special energy between you that you both find rejuvenating. Their presence functions like a clear light in your life that helps you remember what is actually important.“
Connections on a deeper level include:
Conversation is essential. It sharpens communication, and both individuals have the opportunity to express their relationship expectations and personal boundaries. Realistically, the flames of passion have to marinate so they can be reignited. Engaging in meaningful conversation can be stimulating, and it calibrates the relationship.
Laughter uplifts the soul. Navigating through life’s highs and lows can be stressful. Therefore, it is beneficial to have a partner that has the ability to elevate your spirits and make you laugh. Laughter is a release and allows the body to relax. Fortunately, this relaxation can lead to a passionate simmer.
Vulnerability fosters trust and safety in a relationship. It is important to have someone you can confide in without judgment. Vulnerability gives you the freedom to express your emotions, and this stronger connection cultivates intimacy.
Let go of the superficial. Do not miss the opportunity to develop an extraordinary friendship and deep connection, because you are too focused on external values. Your passionate connection might not be what is considered “Instagram sexy” or “Instagram successful”. There is no filter in life. Engaging conversation, generosity, humor, and affection are sexy too. You never know, these treasures may come in an unexpected person.
With these things in mind, do not underestimate the power of a strong friendship. It has the possibility of bringing you euphoric joy, and evolving to a love that makes you burn with passion. How do I know? Has it ever happened? Yes.
