The Narcissist as a Masterful Con Artist
The problem with dealing with a narcissist is that while it may seem great at first, you quickly realize that nothing can make him happy. A narcissist always looks at everything as if it is not good enough. A narcissist always has to find something negative in everything, he is always dissatisfied with something, he is never happy. A narcissist always feels that something is not as good as it should be, and this unfortunately affects you.
When you are with a narcissist, you are surrounded by someone who is always depressed no matter how fun and exciting the things you do. It’s like taking a sedative or a depression pill and soon you won’t be able to enjoy anything anymore. This is because when you are constantly surrounded by a narcissist who is perpetually dissatisfied, it affects your perception.
When you are with a narcissist, you will not see the world the way you normally would. When you are with a narcissist, you will not enjoy activities that you normally would that they bring you joy without the narcissist. You may notice that your happiness is leaving you, that you are starting to lose energy, that you are starting to lose that spark you once had. The fire begins to burn out, your energy begins to wane, and eventually you feel dissatisfied and feel like you can’t find joy no matter what you do.
You may feel better when you are alone without the narcissist you may find that when you are not in contact with the narcissist your energy starts to come back, it starts to regenerate, the spark starts to glow stronger again, but you never have enough time to get back to who you were before. This is because the narcissist is constantly around you. Unfortunately, toxic people love the company of other people.
The narcissist is suffering and it feels better knowing that you are suffering too. That’s why a narcissist needs you, he wants to be with you all the time. This is because the thought of being happy without him is just too painful for a narcissist to handle. The narcissist thinks that if he has to be unhappy, then you should be too. That’s the way a narcissist looks at it.
As long as you are surrounded by a narcissist, you will never find happiness. If you look inside a narcissist, into his soul, into his empty space, all you will find there is even more emptiness and even more vanity. This emptiness is only superficially covered by things that look fun or exciting. It is a narcissistic hole covered with gold leaves that draws attention, but it is easy to fall into it and very difficult, and sometimes impossible to get out without someone’s help.
The narcissist often gives you the illusion of fun and entertainment, especially in the beginning when you get to know him, when you get to know his mask, his false identity that he created and tailors especially for you. He can act so believable and natural, as if he is really interested in you, as if there is a lot going on in his life. The narcissist will behave so well, everything will look like a perfect picture. All this gives the illusion that you are dealing with a funny and interesting person.
But if you just sit down with a narcissist for a few minutes and try to find some real emotional purpose, you will realize that there is simply nothing there. Narcissistic people only care about illusions, their image and reputation.
Narcissist designed it so you’d think there was something in it, but Narcissist is just an empty shell. Narcissist is a pretty package, a nice box with no contents, a nice cover of an unwritten book. And as soon as you open the box, you’re already disappointed. It turns out it’s not what you thought.
The narcissist deliberately misled and manipulated you. He played a perfect role that has nothing to do with reality. The narcissist has led you to believe that he or she is a fun and passionate person. He only did it to attract you and use you, because only then would you pay attention to him. The narcissist knew perfectly well that it had nothing to do with being funny. This is why the narcissist puts so much effort into creating the illusion to make you believe that he is everything you want him to be.
Eventually you realize it’s a trap and you’re left with the pretty packaging. You’re left with a crappy, useless gift that can’t be sold, exchanged or returned. You often think back to that nice package you saw before you unpacked it. Don’t forget what you saw after unwrapping this gift. Don’t focus on nice packaging, which, like all packaging, will always end up in the trash. Every single narcissistic illusion will sooner or later end up in the trash as soon as it is unpacked.
