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The Fear Of Life’s Uncertainties

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The world can be scary, when facing all the many uncertainties we come across in our lifetimes. I don’t believe anybody is immune to the potential worries and fears that can cross our paths at anytime. Whether a toddler, or an elderly person, the uncertain parts of life will become a reality at some point.

When I think of all the rough times I survived, I feel like I’m a natural at this subject. I was definitely born to cover topics like these. The kind that I’ve already lived. My more difficult times I experienced were times that were totally loaded with serious uncertainties. Often times, they were quite frightening to experience. And back in them days, I wasn’t necessarily the kind of person who could be open about it, like I am today. I couldn’t even speak of it at that darker time of my life, let alone write about it.

It can be rather fascinating to look at things like uncertainties, and realize that we put our most powerful stresses, fears, and worries on the things in which we carry the least bit of control of. We put a lifetime of pain into the type of things that we just cannot do anything about. We fester, and we lose sleep, risk health, and live in anxiety.

So are these things just painful vices that we all carry with us for our whole lives. At first, the answer is yes. Because none of us are immune to the stress, and uncertainty of what is going on in this world.

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In a recent discussion with a board certified Psychiatrist MD, we spoke a lot on this type of subject matter. It was expressed to me that these things really are just a part of life. Without necessarily any kind of pill that can simply cure it away. The doctor told me that one of the greatest flaws in the science of the brain, is its natural desire to predict and determine the future. It’s something that is easy to see, considering how much we stress out about things that either a. haven’t come to be yet, and or b. may not come to be ever anyway.

When I was reading up on this, the quote I found that stuck out most the following- “Normally, our brains make decisions for the future based on our past experiences. When the future is uncertain or we’re experiencing something new, we can’t rely on past experiences to inform our decision-making.” (-Kelly Burch, Insider Magazine.)

Practice mindfulness for the fear of the unknown

As with so many other type of issues like mental health, mindfulness is the avenue of choice, for experts. Mindfulness practices and exercises can work great, but adopting mindfulness as more than just an exercise is my own personal recommendation.

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I found that when I studied it, to make it part of my nature, I became better equipped to use mindfulness skills on an instinctive level. So, even on my not so great days, I still was able to have skills ingrained in me that became available whether I was totally conscious of it or not.

I know it is much easier said than done, but once we can use mindfulness and harness it to be aware of all the focus of ours that we are putting into the things in our lives that we really can’t control. It may take a lot of practice, but it isn’t impossible.

After working on this skill consistently I was able to improve on exactly this exercise. Now, we are not perfect, so I can’t say that I never worry about unimportant or things out of my control. But I have greatly improved, and over time I am able to look at myself and realize that my stress levels have dropped significantly. I don’t nearly live in fear of the unknown like I used to. It’s a empowering feeling, when a point like this can be reached.

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It’s a skill of letting go, and realizing we just have to accept the fact that we can’t control the world, and we have to take care of things as they happen. Not project the future, and strain our souls over what is not certain. Just like we practice acceptance in other parts of our lives, we have to accept what life gives us, and accept it as it comes.

Prepare for what we can prepare for and do not lose ourselves in the fears and worries of things that that same fear and worry won’t heal or fix.

We can live in a new quality of life. One that doesn’t feel like an impending doom of what “terrible” things may happen tomorrow.

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Michael Patanella

is a Trenton, New Jersey Author, Publisher, Columnist, Editor, Advocate, and recovering addict, covering topics of mental health, addiction, sobriety, mindfulness, self-help, faith, spirituality, Smart Recovery, social advocacy, and countless other nonfiction topics. His articles, publications, memoirs, and stories are geared towards being a voice for the voiceless. Hoping to reach others out there still struggling.



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Michael Patanella

Michael Patanella

Author, Publisher, and Editor. I cover mindfulness, mental health, addiction, sobriety, life, and spirituality among other things.