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The Harsh Reality For Women Dating at 50 and Beyond: Throw out that list
The game change as we age.
Is age or expectations limiting your chances of finding the right one?
While clearing clutter from a drawer back home recently, I spotted something familiar among some important papers.
It was my decade-old proverbial list.
A flood of memories returned as my eyes slowly moved down the long expectations I desired in the next man I would date — my ultimate life partner. It led me to question, Who still needs the Tall and Handsome criteria, especially when you’re 50 and over?
We all get to that place where we have a vision of our ideal partner — the person we would like to spend the rest of our lives with. We imagined the perfect look-a-like of our basketball crush or favorite movie star. We create a list of the qualities he must possess.
Time usually tells if our list is realistic or makes sense.
I remember writing my list right after my divorce. I was 27 and in the prime of my life — assertive, confident, and independent. But still, the odds were against me — I was divorced and with a 6 yr old.
Not all men are akin to a ready-made family. And I’d better have a reasonable explanation to prove I wasn’t at…
