The Importance of Self-Discovery, Individuality, and Gratitude

Martha Lueck
ILLUMINATION
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3 min readJun 9, 2024

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As humans, we tend to be really hard on ourselves for many reasons. Some people grew up with strict parents who forced them to get perfect grades and high-end careers. So anything less than perfect may not have been appreciated.

For others, maybe perfectionism wasn’t placed upon them by their parents. For instance, I thought my parents were fair during my childhood. They expected 100% effort, but they didn’t push me and my siblings to be perfect.

Looking back, my expectations for myself stemmed from low self-esteem, social comparisons, and sibling rivalry. I placed my friends on a pedestal because they were in honors classes making straight A’s. I was just trying to “prove” that I didn’t have learning disabilities.

In middle school and high school, I envied my sister. She was the “hot track star” everyone knew and loved. Why couldn’t I have her athleticism and attract the studs? As an adult now, I compare myself to my older brother who (in my mind) just “made it” in his 20s. I thought…Why can’t I become an independent adult with a decent salary just like him?

At this point, you’re probably thinking, Be happy for your friends and your siblings. Be grateful for your loving parents. Not everyone has what you have.

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Martha Lueck
ILLUMINATION

Published author | Freelance blogger for HealthyPlace.com | Passionate about mental health and Jesus | https://tinyurl.com/5fbu7pj7