The Most Neglected Emotion Needed for a Successful Relationship

Ana Krajinovic
ILLUMINATION
Published in
5 min readSep 3, 2021

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Cuteness is not only for babies, save some for your partner!

Created by the author, adapted from “A Love Story”.

Most advice on relationships out there will tell you to look for signs: If your partner is behaving this and that way, that means X, Y, or Z. Endless blabbering on how to keep the spark, passion, and sex alive. But what if I told you that in between all that sexual and (hopefully) intellectual chemistry, you absolutely need to feel cuteness toward your partner to have a long-lasting relationship?

In Western cultures, we don’t talk much about the feelings of cuteness outside of the baby-related domains…or maybe baby Yoda domains. Sure, we all think babies are adorable and we all have similar reactions, like wanting to squeeze them or make funny sounds, but we rarely use the same language when we talk about our romantic partners.

I am not ashamed to admit that the emotional glue of my 11-year relationship is the feeling of cuteness, the same one you feel when you see a super cute baby, whether it’s a human or an alien, like baby Yoda. You might get a feel for some of this cuteness through my LEGO comics below.

Photo by Victor Serban on Unsplash

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Ana Krajinovic
ILLUMINATION

A linguist and comic researcher, PhD, and comic creator writing about mental health, languages, creativity, and life stuff (also on anakrajinovic.substack.com)