The Power of Not Being Too Positive
Why being overly positive won’t make you succeed.
Attitude is the lens through which you view the world.
- If your lens is tainted dark, everything around will appear pitch-black.
- If your lens is purely rose-colored, you’ll be fooled into thinking the world is a fairytale.
- If your lens is crystal clear, you’ll see the rawness in everything.
Each of these offers a distinct life perspective.
Looking through a tainted dark lens is living a life influenced by trauma and emotional wounds. It’s difficult to see colors everywhere. All the places you look at appear dead and long gone. Life seemed to condemn you into complete mundaneness. Your hope had fallen flat. Joy is nowhere to be found, and nothing seems to raise your spirit.
On the contrary, looking through a purely rose-colored lens is living a too-idealistic life. Perspective is heavily filtered. You’re too blinded by the false belief that everything perfectly falls into the right places. Thought the universe matches desires and aspirations. Wrongly, you assume every part of life adjusts at your will.
These two lenses aren’t healthy. One is too pessimistic, and the other is too optimistic. Both are sitting on the lower and upper extremities. There is no balance at all.
How can one cultivate an attitude that will lead to success?
Be in the center. Wear an unbiased perspective. Choose the third lens.
A crystal-clear lens provides you with the most precise image of life. Not overly pushed to one side: to positivity or negativity.
Success isn’t born from ideal assumptions; on the mindset that speaks, “What I envision will manifest as perfect as I want it. In reality, success is nothing more than a flattened road. Achieving goals is sometimes a two-step forward followed by a three-step backward. You reach the top only to plunge into your most painful downturn. You get to taste the prize only to fall from grace. You get to run for miles only to see that the finish line is empty.
This is what the journey towards success is.
And unless you look at it through a transparent lens: without judgment, and with full acceptance that this is how life goes, you won’t see the rationality of it.
Rationality can only be found when rawness is visible. It drives you into a realistic assumption that although things can go a little too much or too little, it is still bound to change. Nothing stays the same forever.
- If you’re in a dark place for too long, it doesn’t imply that a brighter life won’t find you, so you still build your future with high hopes.
- If you’re finally in a blissful state, you know it isn’t permanent, so you prepare yourself for the changing weather.
Once you start embodying these two, achieving goals will be much easier.
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