The Problem with Men’s Dating Advice.

Coke Francis
ILLUMINATION
Published in
5 min readFeb 14, 2022

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Yeah, guys. No.

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I tried. I promise I did.

I read dating books written by men. I supported male dating guru’s YouTube channels. I’ve followed them on Facebook and other social networks.

I listened to men's relationship radio shows for years. And admittedly, maybe 10 or so years ago, they weren’t bad. Men actually gave pretty good relationship advice.

I mean, it still didn’t work for me…but…at least it wasn’t overtly toxic.

It was all the typical riddles that you’ll find in any other dating book.

Men like quiet subdued girls who aren’t afraid to express themselves.

Play hard to get, but don’t lead him on!

Let the man lead and let him be a man, but you know, don’t ACTUALLY expect him to lead and be a man.

“What is the beginning of eternity, the end of time and space, the beginning of every end, and the end of every race? Figure that out before the hostages DIE, BATMAN. Mwahahahaha!!!!”

— The Riddler

Male dating Guru’s 10–20 years ago were somewhat trustworthy. They approached you like the protective father some…

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