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The Simplest and Most Rewarding Cure for Loneliness

Learning to positively embrace loneliness and thrive in solitude

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Do you crave companionship? Or are you perfectly content by yourself? Do you feel lonely in this big world?

Today’s fast-paced world leaves all of us feeling lost and lonely at times. By the time your day ends, you are exhausted and crave a certain familiar warmth. If only to just sit and watch TV with or have dinner with. Failing to have this, there are many who have gone into a state of self-prescribed depression. A state of loneliness.

Now, who really likes to be lonely?

Loneliness is very very overrated. The need for companionship is a good thing. It makes you only human. But, what if you are alone, by circumstance? Will you stop living as a result of it?

You can’t do that! You have to live and live very well at that too! With constant reminders or feelings of loneliness, your productivity and your sanity both can go for a toss.

So what is the alternative? What is the cure for this loneliness?

The Simplest and Most Rewarding Cure for Loneliness

Think of your life from birth. The very first time a baby comes into this world. This little baby has come into this world alone. When your life ends it will end alone. Your life is not going to end with another group that is going to come with you to keep you company on that journey. On this journey from birth to death to the afterlife, you have to go at it alone. Just you! Only You!

Yes, you will meet friends and family along the way on this physical journey, but they are not your purpose for living, they are the experience, the lessons we learn along this journey.

The sooner we can accept this Divine truth, the easier it is to surrender to creating a beautiful life, without focusing so much on the loneliness of it all.

Why not make YOU your own best friend?

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“If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…an opportunity to get to know YOU, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful YOU.” ~ Mandy Hale

What are the things you do with your best friends? Go for movies, share funny stories, go for outings, excursions, etc. Do all these things with yourself. Just learn to be with yourself. Slowly the loneliness goes away and is replaced with Peace! Yes, peace of mind, peace of heart, and total control of your SELF.

At a time when you’re totally at peace with yourself, If you do meet someone and decide to have a relationship, that relationship will be more fruitful and enriching. Why? Because you’re no more needy. You’re no more imbalanced. You’re no more unhappy. On the contrary, You have found your SELF!

At this point sharing your life with someone means letting that person grow too. You live your lives with a certain calm, where you help each other grow as individuals. You let each other BE exactly who you are without the temptation to change each other.

But first and foremost, Learn to live with yourself.

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You may not enjoy loneliness, because loneliness is sad. But solitude is something else; solitude is what you look forward to when you want to be alone, when you want to be with yourself. So, solitude is something we all need from time to time. ~Ruskin Bond

Being your own best friend can be the most enriching experience in the world. I know, because I did the exact same thing when I went through a very bad and painful separation in the far past. At the time, I didn’t know how to be by myself. I had somehow lost my identity in the crowded relationship I was in. Slowly but steadily I attempted to be by myself. Found me. Then after a few years, when I met the love of my life, I knew I was loved for who I was, not for who someone wanted me to be.

In fact, personally now, I love my solitude. I do love my family and friends, but my alone time is where I get the most creative and spiritual satisfaction.

The amazing thing about being your own best friend and finding yourself is that you never ever feel lonely and you almost always know what you want. You don’t need to second guess yourself ever again.

The journey from loneliness to solitude is truly a very healing process.

❓💭What about you? Are you your own best friend or are you still looking for YOURSELF? Please share your wisdom and thoughts in the comments below. Thank you for reading!

💗With Love, Zeenat Merchant Syal, M.A, M.Sc

💗Zeenat Merchant Syal is a Practicing Counseling Psychologist & Spiritual Counselor. She writes on Healing the Mind, Heart & Soul on Positive Provocations & offers Online Counseling there too.💗

*A version of this post originally appeared on www.PositiveProvocations.com*

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Zeenat Merchant Syal, M.A, M.Sc

Zeenat Merchant Syal, M.A, M.Sc

Empowering Souls to Heal through Positivity&Self Love🦋Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual Counselor ✒️Writer&Founder: PositiveProvocations.com