Three Phases of Forgiveness
The only two F’s to give in life
“The most merciful person is the one who forgives when he is able to take revenge.” — Imam Hussain
Going back to the time, where a scratch on the knee was washed away by “Oh, I am sorry for pushing you” and a friendly hand to pick you up, people were good back then — and so were our hearts.
When I look back at my childhood, there are very few things that I remember being bad — and none of them are grudges. Maybe, it is because people didn’t really hurt you, or perhaps, they apologized honestly and entirely for their mistakes — it doesn’t happen anymore.
The world that we live in today, is full of people who are ready to hunt you down on your next move. You can never really know someone’s intention for you — once you start trusting them, they show you exactly why you shouldn’t. I have lost count of times I got hurt, and never received anything to compensate, not even a look of “sorry” from the corner of their eyes.
There is only one thing I have learned, it’s the fact that you can never expect people to come and heal you by apologizing. They will never do that — you have to forgive them to settle your conscience. You have to do it to look at them in the eyes, without feeling…
