The Three Words That Can Ruin a Relationship

No matter how heated an argument gets, these words are unforgivable

Tristan Tell


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It was past my usual bedtime, I had not had a proper meal yet, and I was stressed out. So when my girlfriend told me something I had done had hurt her feelings, I uttered three words I’d regret for the rest of the night.

Never use these words in an argument with your partner. They provoke fights, damage trust, and can ruin relationships:

„I don’t care.“

What I meant, was:

I am tired, I am hungry, and I am stressed out. I have no mental energy left to fight over this. I am sorry I hurt your feelings, but give me a break. I will make up for it later.

What I communicated instead, was:

Your needs and feelings don’t matter to me.

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