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There Is No Obedience To Anyone In Disobedience To Allah:
Obedience to parents and its limits — The parent-child relationship is the pillar of family life and the basic building block of civilization.
Islam teaches us to cultivate positive, healthy, and Functional relations between parents and their children. Part of this imperative is to balance the rights and duties of both parents and children.
Children must support their parents and obey all of their reasonable requests, while parents need to give their children room to grow and to develop their unique personalities.
Righteousness to parents (birr al-walidayn) is a core concept in Islamic ethics. In many verses and traditions, good conduct towards one’s parents is mentioned right alongside the worship of Allah.
Allah said: Worship Allah, associate nothing with Him, and be good to your parents. (Surat al-Nisa’ 4:36)
And Allah said: Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and be good to your parents. (Surat al-Isra’ 17:23)
The close proximity of these commands shows their importance in the hierarchy of Islamic priorities.
Indeed, disobedience to parents (‘uquq) is considered one of the major sins, and displeasing one’s parents without a just cause threatens one’s relationship with Allah.
