Use Your Love Language to Love Yourself

Spoil yourself with the gift of love…

Rosa Diaz-Casal
Published in
3 min readJun 8, 2024


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Most of us tell our potential partners during the early “sharing everything” stages what our love language is. Of course, we want them to know how we want to be loved. We try to make it easier for them to show us love.

Most of us know exactly what we want from our partners. Some of us have a list of things we will not settle for.

It seems somewhat unfair, however, to expect to be loved by someone in a way that we can’t or don’t know how to love ourselves. Does this mean if we’re not in a relationship we don’t deserve to be loved?

The way we show ourselves sets an example for others to know how to love us. We want to understand love languages in relation to another person but ignore how we can love ourselves.

If physical touch is your love language, you most likely love cuddles. When your partner gives you a hug or even holds your hand, you get butterflies in your stomach.

You can show yourself the affection you deserve by booking a spa treatment or massage, or you can also invest in massagers or foot spas that you can enjoy at home. Being physically active, like going for a run, swim, or yoga session is another way. I love having a nice steamy bath and using a good body moisturizer…