We MUST Set Boundaries — Here’s Why
People are living life on auto-pilot — most things that happen to us, good or bad, we excuse to be out of our control, often.
One thing we know is many problems can be dealt with through accountability.
This skill grants you the discipline to handle situations efficiently, even if it isn’t your fault or business.
Is there a way to prevent some of these unnecessary problems altogether?
Well, I’m here to tell you that setting boundaries is the answer to that question. Not just social boundaries, but also physical, mental, and spiritual ones.
One of which is setting a boundary regarding getting involved with conflict that isn’t yours.
It’s that easy.
Because we live in a time of depravity, selfishness, and stupidity, people are getting involved with all these irrelevant dilemmas.
They could’ve been home by now if they had set their boundaries straight.
In this article, I want to go over more about boundaries, the ones I set, and why the world needs them.
What’s in it For You?
I’ve been brief, so people probably still wonder what I mean by ‘boundaries.’
They are limitations/rules that you make. They will get you out of trouble and overall make your experience cleaner.
Some examples?
How about labeling who you should or shouldn’t engage with?
Whether this person is partner-material.
Whether that is your business over there.
If you’re going to let this person discourage you.
If this is something worth fighting for.
Simple ideas like this can prevent you and others from getting thrown into the wrong dogpile.
Having boundaries is respecting yourself, and other people’s most valuable resource: time.
It’s a nice thing to do.
Even if it may take some time to get your bounds straight, that chunk doesn’t compare to the time wasted by someone who didn’t set any.
These people are known as the Karens, drama queens, and gossipers.
Do the world a favor and don’t be like them.
My Last Straw
I recall elementary and middle school days when I would bring my lunch to school. (still do in high school)
I practically became a walking vending machine; if people asked for one of my bars or bags of chips, I gave it.
I realized in my first year of high school that I had to make some changes. There were days when I gave my entire lunch away to beggars.
There were instances when people wanted to look inside my lunch box themselves to see what I had. Whatever they wanted, they took.
“Thanks!” 😘
Now then, last year is when I began self-improvement, and so I learned to say no.
I set boundaries as to how much food I’d give away, and this amount slowly started decreasing. Soon enough, I began leaving lunch well-fed.
You may be confused as to why I didn’t just get a school lunch or hide from people. #1, I don’t trust school food. #2, hiding would’ve been me giving up, cowardice.
The whole point of this dilemma was to learn to say no, and I’m glad I did.
By setting boundaries, saying no is something that you must be able to do.
Are You Living Out of Bounds?
People aren’t even on the field. They are way out of bounds, deep into a problem that isn’t associated with what they’re concerned with.
If the quarterback throws you the ball but it heads out of bounds, you’re not going to go for that ball. Going for it won’t benefit you or your team.
Society tends to go to catch that ball.
In doing so, they’re only risking running into someone on the sidelines and hurting themself by going for that ball, that problem.
If they had just set some boundaries, they would have seen the white lines and known that the pass wasn’t worth going for. They would have known what balls or worth catching, and which were worth letting go of.
Once you get your problem into the endzone, you’ve not only scored a touchdown, but you’ve also gotten yourself a break. That is until the next one is thrown at you.
This is how you progress in life: dealing with problem after problem of yours.
Conclusion
There is no better and easier way to get your priorities straight than setting some boundaries.
You don’t have to memorize them even. You can write them down and put them on the wall. Do whatever you have to do.
Save your time.
Does this violate my boundaries? Yes?
Ok — you saved 20 minutes instead of trying to break up a fight at a bar.
You saved 5 minutes instead of complaining to Wendy’s about getting your order wrong.
You saved your lunch after promising to not be too generous.
Boundaries will save you from situations going satire, so be sure to start thinking yours up now, if not already.
Thanks for reading.
I’ll see you in the next article.
