What does a narcissist get out of hoovering.

It doesn’t matter if it’s in a week, two, a month, a year or 5 years, sooner or later you will hear about your narcissist again, he will want to invade your life and take control over you again. This doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to get back into a relationship with you,maybe he just wants to be friends.

Don’t let him.

He is not your friend, never was and never will be. You need to be firm and close the door to the narcissist once and for all. Write down on a piece of paper what he did to you and that you don’t want to see, know, or hear from him again.

When you have a moment of doubt, reach for this piece of paper and remind yourself, and be consistent. Do as you wrote on this piece of paper. The narcissist will be nice and charming again, so the love bombing stage will return because the narcissist needs something from you and needs to use you again.

The narcissist comes back to see how badly he hurt you. If you let him reconnect, he will destroy you even more. The narcissist will want to come back to completely destroy you even more than the first time. To a narcissist, in his brain you are always his property and he thinks he can use you again whenever he wants.

For a narcissist, you are one of many books on the shelf in his library, and he can reach for you at any time. This is how a narcissist’s brain works, it doesn’t matter if he blocked you, it doesn’t matter if you blocked him, the narcissist thinks that if he…