What Does “Acceptance” Mean?
So many times we’ve heard ‘‘accept the truth’’ and ‘‘accept what it is’’.
We all know the importance of acceptance. But what does acceptance really mean?
We choose to accept what has happened and we still continue struggling.
Why?
Because acceptance is not about facing the truth while at the same time feeling deflated, angry or disappointed.
Acceptance is the moment when you don’t have any intention to change anything that has happened.
We know the past can’t be changed but we can’t help but dwell on it as if it can be changed.
For example, you said something wrong today. You want to take the words back, want to erase yourself from others’ brains due to something stupid you think of you.
If you say something wrong today and you accept it. You would not keep thinking about taking words back.
However, it’s a bit hard, isn’t it? You know what it is supposed to be like but your mind still fixates on that.
The way to let your mind get rid of bad memory, it’s to see it as a normal thing.
This is the key to acceptance.
If you think this is a normal thing, it’s normal that you have to go through this. You would not have too much emotion toward it.
Like the breakfast you had this morning, you don’t forget it, you just won’t spend time thinking about it. It’s way too normal to cost you any second on it.
There are just 24 hours for a day but a ton of things could happen in a day.
Your mind can choose what to focus on, to see everything equally.
You had breakfast. You said something stupid. They are both something you did today. They are the same.
If you think the former is normal and the latter is bad, then you would want to change and have to handle the latter situation.
You put a lot of emotion into yourself to cope with creating a situation.
When you raise a lot of emotions about what has happened, it means you don’t accept it.
Acceptance is the opposite of the struggle.
The struggle is comprised of emotions.
As long as you label it as ‘‘normal’’, emotion would not cultivate the struggle of changing the so-called ‘‘bad thing’’.
You will come into a state of acceptance.
