What Signs Reveal a Covert Narcissist is Preparing to Devalue and Discard?
When will the honeymoon be over?
While the devaluation and discard stages often overlap for an overt narcissist, not so with a covert narcissist.
The devaluation stage begins almost immediately with a covert narcissist, though you won’t likely recognize it as such.
Why?
Because subconsciously, the covert narcissist feels intense shame and fear about who they are.
Long ago, as a manner of self-protection, they created their idealized self, their false persona, and the fantasy reality they’ve presented to the world since. Their false, idealized self believes they are better than you. The covert narcissist believes they are more special, more entitled, and more deserving of attention.
The fact that you are more successful, more attractive, more intelligent, and more connected makes them furious. While outwardly they are delighted you elevate their status, internally they are holding back intense rage.
This rage comes out in your devaluation — long before you ever notice it.
Devaluation signs you won’t notice
- Devaluing you to flying monkeys — lying, blameshifting, and playing…
