What Will It Take To Live The Life You Want? 3 Actionable Tips To Help You Bridge That Gap.

Basina Suraj
ILLUMINATION
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4 min readDec 11, 2023

Most people never reach their full potential, don’t be like them.

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What is the life you want and what will it take to accomplish it?

The answer is always a complex and complicated one. Most people have a picture-perfect imagination of the life they crave for. But they don’t know how to turn that imagination into reality.

Moving your life from point A to B is like climbing the Himalayan mountains. Not everyone has what it takes to make it to the summit. Most people quit along the way and many others, paralyzed by fear of failure, never attempt at all.

It takes tremendous strength, courage, resilience, and mental fortitude to move to the top. These tips will help you do exactly that.

Let me explain.

Lay the foundation of your dream first

A solid foundation is essential for erecting a skyscraper. To ensure the building’s stability, you must cast reinforced concrete deep into the earth.

The same principles can be applied to life. Designing your life with good values and clear principles is the first step to crafting your dream life.

As Abraham Lincoln said, the best way to predict the future is to create it.

This famous quote highlights the value of making the correct choices today to shape your future aspirations.

First, define the life you truly want. Be clear and specific about it. You are the architect of your dream lifestyle. Nobody has any idea about your desires.

If you want to be a writer, write. If you want to be a singer, sing. Don’t get it complicated.

It is not enough to know what you want. You must devise proven strategies and steps to accomplish it. Set daily, weekly, or monthly goals.

If you enjoy singing, consider scheduling daily or weekly rehearsals for yourself.

Developing positive and consistent habits also has the power to propel you toward your desired life stage faster than you could ever envision.

Take action on your goals. After drawing all the lofty plans, execution is the most important step.

Planning, setting goals, and acting on them may be a tedious exercise to undertake, but is the easiest way to bridge the gap between you and your ambitions.

Decide on what needs to change

From firsthand, you are nowhere near your best self because you resist change. You don’t want to sacrifice your sleep or Netflix time to practice a new skill. That’s exactly why you are stuck in your shitty and miserable lifestyle.

As Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Change may be associated with uncertainty and discomfort, but nothing remarkable happens without change. Change is everything as everything is change. Those who resist change resist growth and progress.

Change is the number one factor barring most people from becoming the best version of themselves.

Your life sucks, but you will rather endure it that way than face the wrath of the unknown. You try to play it safe. That’s why you keep getting the same outcome repeatedly.

Many things have to alter to arrive at the new you. I mean serious Lifestyle changes and adjustments. Those who accept this bitter truth set themselves free forever.

If you want to lose weight and be in a healthy shape, change what you consume.

If you want your finances to change, change the way you spend money.

If you want to build healthy relationships, change the way you relate to people.

Everything meaningful starts with a change. These tiny adjustments may seem like a discomfort to you, but they have the power to transport you to your dreamland.

You only live once, so live for yourself at least. Do it for yourself this time around.

Develop grit and resilience

It takes inspiration to get started, but it takes grit and resilience to keep going. Inspiration is a powerful force, but it is perishable.

If life moves like a vehicle, motivation is the fuel. Once it is exhausted, you must refuel or remain stationary for the rest of your life.

That’s where grit comes into the equation. Develop relentless courage and fortitude to face your struggles when your wellspring of inspiration fades.

One way to cultivate resilience is through self-discipline. Self-discipline comes in handy on the days you don’t feel like doing anything.

To grow personally, it’s important to cultivate consistency and momentum by practicing self-control.

Good days will come, and bad ones will also emerge at some point.

Aside from self-discipline, practice delayed gratification. Train your mind to embrace perseverance by choosing long-term benefits over immediate pleasure.

This mindset can inspire you to achieve your long-term ambitions even if the immediate results are not pleasant.

Final thoughts

There are a billion steps you can embark on to achieve your dream life, but the first step is to define a clear path to follow.

A truthful self-assessment can aid in understanding your current life and the necessary self-adjustments required to win at life.

Applying these tips will help you scale your inner mountains and reach your full potential with ease.

That’s all for today. Your dreams are valid, keep chasing them.

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Basina Suraj
ILLUMINATION

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