What’s Left When It’s Almost Over?
How to use the deathbed perspective to live your best life every day
Take all current situations as opportunities to improve the level of serenity in your last retrospective.
Although it seems a little tragic, some say that all life will end. And to this day, they've been one hundred percent accurate in proving this in their ongoing research.
Well, while the pessimists celebrate, all that remains to be done is to make the process easier—and with a BIG secondary gain.
A big secondary gain
The best way to write a retrospective we’re proud of is to live a life we’re proud of.
We got to remember that all the improvements done intending to make serenity the main feeling right before we lay down in our six-feet-under-last-address-ever will reflect directly in our daily lives.
We won't exchange a lifetime for just one day. We'll let that unpredictable single day make our lives to be the best that they can be.
If you agree with that, please let me suggest one way to do that.
Invest in good memories
A memory, from a simplistic view, is a sum of what happens and how we interpret it.
What happens
If someone tells us not to dive in that part of the river because there are many rocks beneath, we’re free to choose to do that or not. It means, assuming or not the risk.—free will.
But, if someone else with an average of 2–3 neurons in the skull pushes us, you may agree that we hadn’t any choice then.—uncontrolled event.
Through these two kinds of causes and their respective effects, life goes on and on. In some events, we can interfere, and others just happen to us (or around us—a storm, for example).
How we interpret it
Regardless of the event—controlled or uncontrolled—our interpretation defines the quality of the memory it creates.
Only 2 tools needed
Consider the following approach to use free will, to deal with uncontrolled events, and to take the best from interpreting what happens to us.
Imagine we've got only these 2 tools: Free Will and Memory Editor.
Let's allow ourselves to be lazy and read only the quick start of their owner's manual.
Free Will (Quick Start)
In all situations where you may interfere:
Step one: think of the desired outcome;
Step two: think of the worst that can happen;
Step three: undertake a risk-benefit analysis;
Step four: press one of the two buttons “do it” or “don’t do it”;
Step five: repeat the sentence "I did it—or not—with the best intention in mind. I'm thankful for the opportunity to manifest my will."
P.S.: in uncontrollable events, press the acceptance button. You’ll listen to the phrase “Take it easy with yourself since there was nothing you could do” 10 times, with a calm background melody.
Memory Editor (Quick Start)
Step one: review the event;
Step two: for the good parts smile; for the difficult and sad ones, find what positive you learned from that event;
Step three: say “Every action was taken based on what was possible in that exactly given moment. No other action can be taken over this now because it’s out of reach in a point in time called past itself.”;
Step four: write down your happy, grateful, or acceptant version of the event and press save.
What’s left when it’s almost over?
We’re given 2 wonderful gifts: freedom of choice and a bunch of blank pages.
If you ponder each choice based on the desire to interfere positively in every situation,—or simply accept when it’s uncontrollable—and write past events from the nicest point of view in your book of memories, there will be nothing to regret for.
In doing so, you are giving your life the value and understanding it needs to give you the peace and joy you deserve.
Do it today. Use your free will with the best result in mind and edit your book of memories as often as you feel necessary. If memories are all that is left in the final scene, we will make them the best we can now, to enjoy the results throughout our history.
My experience with this
Although this exercise has decreased my fear of death by only about 0,0000012%, it has exponentially increased my pleasure to be here and has helped me to look back almost regret-free. I’m still constantly practicing this for its current benefits and in case of, you know… I mean, nobody knows when, you know?
