When your high hope exhaust you
Pull yourself back to reality and set your focus right
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Having hope means we anticipate something good will happen and this sometimes put us in a complex psychological and physical state which is a mixture of joy, restlessness, anxiousness, excitement, and sometimes fear. I personally experienced all that when I was expecting my child eleven years ago and that was the first time I realized having high hope can be exhausting.
High hope drives you restless and makes you feel guilty about simply sitting down and waiting. You may want to prepare ahead with real actions, but the more effort you put in the more vulnerable to disappointment you become. Before you know it the high hope has inflated too much and the fear of a burst will start to grow in you.
The beloved author Arnold Lobel of the famous Frog and Toad series wrote the short story ‘The Garden’. It says, Toad wanted to have a beautiful garden just like his best friend Frog’s and planted some seeds in his yard. But his seeds did not sprout as quickly as he anticipated so he sang to the seeds, read to the seeds, and played music to the seeds, thinking all these actions would help the seeds sprout and called these “very hard (garden) work”, not knowing sunshine and rain is all it takes for seeds to…
