“Why Are Polyamorous People Ugly?”

A question about beauty standards that monogamists keep asking

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A lot of people in mainstream society often make negative comments about the appearance of polyamorists (people who practice polyamory like me). Whenever this topic comes up, a lot of my people get defensive:

Let me start by saying that people who call us “ugly” have a point. Kind of.

It’s important to note that I’m not making a value judgment by suggesting that physically beautiful people are “better” humans.

We polyamorists don’t conform to societal standards of monogamy. This sometimes means that we are less likely to conform to societal standards overall, and that can definitely include societal standards of beauty and attractiveness.

The result is that you will often see a greater proportion of people who aren’t…