Why Authenticity Always Wins In Dating
In Trying To Be Someone We’re Not, We’ll Lose What We Want
I see so many articles on the internet around the subject of getting people to like them. “5 tips to getting your crush to notice you”, “how to get someone to like you”, and my personal favorite from the other day “6 ways to use intermittent reinforcement to make anyone love you”
Apart from the fact that the latter is a manipulation technique that exists in toxic relationships, there are several problems with anything around “making people like you”.
And I get it, we all have crushes or we want relationships, and we want people to want us. After all, without people wanting us we’d cease to have ANY relationship — platonic OR romantic.
But I feel as if the method we go about trying to secure relationships only serves to create more pain and more hurt than we want. And as someone who has googled for answers and has pondered these questions myself, I wanted to speak to my no.1 method for getting people to like you.
And it’s called being authentic.
Authenticity Wins, Every Time
Trust me, I’ve tried as hard as the next person to bend and break myself into what I think others want me to be.
