Why do we let other people affect us?
What is it that ticks us off easily? Makes us mad, drops our energy, turns our positive nature into negative?
Why is it that one word, a single act from someone else can change our whole world. Bring our high spirits down. We are happy and at peace one second and the complete opposite the next.
It’s so much harder and takes more effort to get back into good spirits but so easy to remain in the negative.
We do it as if it takes no effort. We accept going down so easily but have to go through intense and time consuming self-convincing sessions to agree to go back up to the positive state.
We accept going down without thinking about it — we let the leaves fall — but why? Why do we just let ourselves go instead of giving a fight to stay in the positive or just push the ‘’ignore this’’ button.
Why do we give in so easily?
Why do we let others play with our wellbeing?
Instead of doing everything we can to protect our wellbeing, we package it and gift it as a present to others. Here. Do as you wish. My wellbeing is in your hands.
Is it that we value the opinion of others more than ours. We put them first and ourselves second so we give our emotional wellbeing to their hands.
I think the reason behind this is more so that of a fragile self-confidence and low self-esteem. Seeking validation in everything that we do.
We want someone else to justify our actions because we don’t trust ourselves and neither do we love ourselves enough to do this without asking another person.
Isn’t it time we take back control of our mental wellbeing? It’s enough that we gave the keys to our mental health to others. It’s time to take care of yourself.
Our emotional reactions have become automatic. Certain situations trigger certain things in us and we react instead of respond. Now, if only we could take a couple seconds — regardless of the situation — to think and read it through, with time, we could take back control because we would learn that we don’t need to react to everything that is happening around us. We can use a ‘’pass’’ card.
Not everything is being asked to be optimized and formed an opinion about. You can stay cool and ignore the situation. You always have that option.
We only have a limited amount of energy per day and when we decide to use it to react to every little thing happening around us — energy very much needed for important decision-making and doing— energy doesn’t get left over for the really important stuff.
We lose our ability to think clearly, thus lose control of the moment and the unconscious/sub-conscious takes over. My life slips away from me in front of my eyes and I continously find myself in distressing situations.
The most difficult part about this is that it has become a habit. And we all know how difficult it can be to break one.
stop feeding the negatives.
You’ll see that with time, as we stop feeding these habits and reacting to them, they will stop being triggered. Slowly but surely.
And we will have more control over our lives. They will lose their magnitude and strength and die.
Our mind will be at ease. We will have achieved such a level of mindfulness that our mind will be impenetrable. Only I will be the sole decider of what is important and how it effects me.
And as the mind is silenced, it will move aside and make way for the heart. And the heart’s mind will lead from now on.
Although not everything will be the way we want it, at least, all will be well on the inside. A state of inner-peace. Everlasting. So precious.
The peace that comes with only being yourself. Speaking what’s in your heart. Your words. Not words that of another. Acting your heart.
Only then can true inner-peace come. If only one tries to be who he truly is on the inside.
I’m not trying to get approval from others. Only myself.
Get rid of all toxic reactions so the heart takes over and the real you is revealed.
Oh, how great it is to find the true you on the inside and live it in the outside.
