Why Don’t We Listen?
Isn’t desirably beautiful that we can listen to ourselves through others? But what happens when others don’t?
Listening skills can be further taken for granted by a speaker also. When we love speaking what seems to be worthy, then why can’t we listen with the same feeling to others?
Today, there’s an assumption we are carrying forward that listening is just paying attention. In contrast, if we start digging a bit deep inside the concept, we could understand and learn the same through a new way.
Historically, listening has always been ‘waiting’ until we get the context of what the person is struggling to tell you. The skill is tough, we have to form a structure from the starting and continue till we get what we did not know. We don’t have the oceanic world of words — we present the group of thoughts in a way that chances of misinterpretation are now higher than ever. We can’t understand the importance of listening when we don’t force ourselves to drop the existing ideas. We don’t seem working on those also, we put bridges unknowingly and try to transfer the information or idea to the other end. When we fail to attempt, or when we start seeing the cracks on those bridges, we start putting efforts to aid them, instead of letting it fall and aim to build a new one.
It is more of a getting on the right path to thinking further, and the speaker might be a helper. The listening part is helping us to understand, whether whatever we have, is true or not. Understanding without letting our mind protect the idea gives meaning to the speaker also.
There are a lot of underivative ways of going deep into it exist. If the direction of a boat is wrong in the first place, we must stop it and turn it into the right one. Similarly, when we are playing the role of a listener, and the foundation of the topic is getting derailed by the other one, we must push him on the right path with the help of an interruption, instead of acting or paying attention and fake nods.
Today, listening is much more dependent upon the person who is there to listen. We can’t control the pre-conceptions or beliefs of anyone, rather, we could make ourselves more capable of knowing the truth — maybe by asking questions, or sometimes, getting into a debate. Ultimately the aim should be unchanged.
The idea of having feedbacks is interdependent. If I’m in my full consciousness accepting something to be true, it will appear as one, but in what sense I can match it with reality? I will need people, I will need criticisms, someone who is capable enough to destroy the whole idea and brings a new one. That’s how we grow. We are on a journey of knowing what is False, but destiny remains the Truth, and for that, listen and allow yourself to accept different dimensions of reality.
