The Term Self-Sabotage is Too Extreme

Embracing Self-Compassion and Breaking Free of the Lies

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Have you ever gotten in your own way?

Did you block yourself from achieving a goal?

Did you create an unfavorable situation instead of what you wanted?

A lot of people call that ‘self-sabotage’…

But I don’t.

I’m moving away from the phrase, ‘self-sabotage,’ as in, “Do you ever self-sabotage?”

Today I rephrase this as,

“Is there a part of you that sometimes needs to slow down or put on the brakes?”

I’ve spent 10 years building a business, writing, and seeking a good relationship.

Along the way, I’ve had stops, starts, and many moments that I used to call ‘self-sabotage.’ Eventually, I realized how unhelpful this language is.

New language has made a difference. Now my business is doing well, my first book is published, and I’m engaged.

No more ‘self-sabotage’ —

Here are three reasons why I’m turning away from this popular phrase.

A. The phrase ‘self-sabotage’ makes it sound like the…