Why Is It So Hard For Men to Do the Bare Minimum?
It never ceases to boggle my mind how often men fail to consider doing even the bare minimum.
Yes, as a woman I have needs, as does everyone. But let me say this, loudly, for the people in the back, for the peanut gallery, for the men and women, and for anyone in-between, non-binary, along the spectrum, gender fluid, etc: Any physical encounter inherently carries more risk and cost for a woman than it does for a man.
I don’t just mean because a woman risks violence and unwanted actions, with a man overstepping his bounds in both subtle and not-so-subtle ways, but yes, that is certainly true, and it is significant. Even with a man we feel safe with, we risk a man overstepping or crossing a boundary or boundaries. We also face pregnancy risks. Women are also more at risk than men of contracting STIs in unprotected sex. This is simply factual. These are huge risks.
Ok, say you don’t have to worry about STIs because you know the potential partner and you are both clean/recently tested or protection will be used (again, even with protection, there is a risk, such as with a condom breaking). Sex for women can often cause complications (in addition to pregnancy), such as UTIs. I say this as someone who has often suffered from UTIs. There are many women who are susceptible to UTIs after any sexual intercourse…
