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Yes, You Can Change Your Direction. This is How You Do It!

Step-by-step plan as outlined by a 20-year old

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Not everyone is where they want to be in life.

For many people, there is a wide gap between what/where they are right now and what/where they want to be.

People want to change, but when they set out on that journey, they see Mt. Everest in front of them or get placed on a boat lost at sea.

So what is the secret to change or a step-by-step plan that will lead to it?

I will get to that later, but the 1st thing you DEFINITELY have to do before embarking on that journey is to:

Change yourself

The reason you have to change yourself is that if you want to change your life for the better, you can’t expect to do it if you spend your weekends on the couch binging on Netflix.

You can’t expect to bring change in your life if you constantly:

  • Waste money on unnecessary things
  • Waste precious time trying to please others
  • Waste your energy on dreaming

Too many people expect change to come to them, and when it doesn’t, these people become heartbroken.

There are others who know change starts with them, but these people try to cause change without improving themselves for the better.

Decisions are made by you and if you try to improve yourself with that old, rusty mindset you have, then you will find yourself at square one pretty early.

So how do you change yourself?

This brings me to my first step.

First Step

— Get rid of a negative mindset and instill in your brain a positive & hard-working mindset.

It sounds easy, but believe me, it’s far from it.

Now, what characteristics are typical of a negative mindset?

They are:

  • Comparing yourself to others and wishing you had what they had
  • Talking behind other people’s backs because it makes you feel good
  • Being jealous of others when you yourself don’t work hard
  • Treating people like slaves
  • Being satisfied when you have more Instagram followers than your peers
  • Saying to yourself that others succeeded because of luck
  • Expecting others to pick up your slack

If you read this and you felt like most of this was describing you, then you, unfortunately, have a negative mindset.

Characteristics of a positive mindset are:

  • Treating others the way you would want to be treated
  • Believing that success comes through hard work and persistence
  • Not being in it for the short-term but for the long-term
  • Giving back and helping others
  • Appreciating and learning from others who are better than you
  • Valuing time & good habits way more than money

Nobody is perfect, so most people have both a mix of a positive and negative mindset.

But if you want to change your life and improve it for the better, then you have to get super comfortable with adopting more of a positive mindset.

With a positive mindset, you can and will slowly transform into a person who is willing to embrace change.

Additionally, you can and should start reading books on whatever you want to improve on or general self-help books. The reason is that books are one of the top sources of information to learn from.

They represent an author’s entire thoughts and opinions about a certain subject and topic condensed into a few hundred pages.

When you go on this journey of change, regularly reading self-help books is going to help big time. These books help motivate a person from the inside out and lead to new perspectives in life.

  • If you want to become debt-free, then along with self-help books, you should read personal finance.
  • For trying to become a better partner or husband, read about love or relationship books.
  • If you want to become better at business, read the countless number of business books out there.

There is a book for every problem out there and it’s your responsibility to incorporate it into your life to become a better person.

2nd step

Once you adopt a positive mindset, you have to:

  • Be in it for the long-term
  • Be willing to accept and learn from failure

There are so many people out there who want to lose weight. In fact, the U.S. adult obesity rate stands at 42.4%.

However, people who go on their weight-loss journey soon find themselves going back.

The reason is that, change is hard and people want results to happen quickly.

People want ”instant gratification” which is the desire to get a reward or experience pleasure without delay.

When people see that the journey ahead is twisty and rough, they start heading back.

Success doesn’t result from just trying and going back. Real success occurs when you repeatedly try, fail, and learn.

Once you stick to something and you keep doing it, you are eventually going to get the results you want and need.

If you want to lose weight and you start doing some cardio and strength training, chances are pretty high that you are going to tire out quickly especially if it’s your first time and that you will not lose weight.

However, if you keep doing this for days, weeks, and months, you will get used to it and you will start to lose weight.

This was all possible because you stuck to it for the long term.

This also brings me to another point, which is a failure.

Failure is always going to happen in life, especially when you decide to change your life for the better.

Change is hard which is why very few people commit to it. However, true improvement comes when you learn from your failures. When you fail at something, then you know you are doing something wrong.

If you simply ignore that problem or failure, you are going to come right back to it eventually. However, if you choose to solve that problem you are facing, you can get back on the right track.

3rd Step

Now that you have changed or improved yourself, you now need to:

  • Have a massive action plan
  • Get into a routine

If you want to accomplish something that you feel will have a great impact on your life, then do it but you also need an action plan.

Let’s say you decide that becoming debt-free is going to change your life for the better.

OK, that is great but how are you going to tackle that?

What is your plan going to be?

That’s why I suggest you come up with a MASSIVE action plan that encompasses everything you know you have to do to succeed.

Here is an example of an action plan for becoming debt-free (in no particular order):

  1. Come up with a monthly budget and track your expenses on a daily basis
  2. Cut out unnecessary spending that has no value and will have no value
  3. Decide which debts you want to tackle first
  4. Adjust your spending habits to align yourself towards your goals
  5. Read. Read. Read. books about personal finance or money

However, the thing that most people don’t do is that they don’t do it for the long term.

For the above example, many people are probably going to track their expenses for a few days and are going to fail in following through with their action plan.

I understand that change is hard, but if one wants to improve their life, then hard work is going to have to occur.

The best way to incorporate change is to form a routine or habit.

When you form a routine, slowly but surely, you get used to it.

For example, everyone has a routine of brushing their teeth and washing their face before bed, and it’s so ingrained in us that we would feel empty or weird if we didn’t do that.

If you form a routine with your action plan in mind, then you will surely get to your goal faster.

If we go back to the example of becoming debt-free, then a routine could consist of:

  • Putting $20 in your piggy bank at the end of every week
  • Tracking your weekly expenses at the end of every week
  • Tracking your monthly expenses on the 30th or 31st of every month
  • Reading books about personal finance first thing in the morning
  • Checking your bills for any extra or unnecessary cost on the 5th of every month

Having a routine makes it so much easier to achieve your goals because consistency + persistence is what lead to success.


Yes, change is the hardest freaking thing in the world both to do and accept. We, humans, love to keep things the way they are especially when they have been serving us great this whole time (or so we think).

Change is sometimes the route we sometimes have to take to improve our lives for the better and the way you do it depends.

However, in this article, I have listed a step-by-step plan that I believe should suit and benefit the vast majority of people out there.

Before trying to change your circumstances, please change yourself first.

You are the one responsible for your decisions, actions, influences, etc.

So it makes sense to start with yourself first. You can and should

  • Start reading books and educate yourself
  • Adopt a positive mindset and get rid of a negative mindset
  • Have a clear purpose and goal

After you improve yourself, go all-in embracing change by coming up with a CLEAR & CONCISE plan on how you are going to tackle this challenge.

You should preferably write your action plan on several sticky notes and stick them all throughout your house.

To incorporate this plan, adopt several routines or habits like tracking your monthly expenses on the 25th of every month or reading books at 7 AM or 8 PM every day.

By following these steps, you will be successful on your journey to change.

Good luck!



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Samir S.

Samir S.

Writing to Inform, Educate, & Teach | Obsessed with Health & Wellness |