You are not the center of the Galaxy.
How to embrace our mistakes and failures as a part of the human experience.
OMG! My shirt doesn’t fit the trouser I’m wearing.
I don’t know what will my office buddies think. What about the people in Metro thinks? I should’ve been more careful with my choice.
Sounds familiar?
Like this, we are constantly worried about how others perceive us daily. We seek validation from friends, family, and even strangers. The thought of failing and being judged harshly by others terrifies us.
However, what if I told you that we may be worrying too much about what others think of us?
We are so consumed with the fear of being judged that we often forget to live our lives.
The slightest change in our image in the eyes of others can obsess us. We lie awake at night, wondering how we could cope without the approval of people we don’t even like very much. We surrender our freedom to the verdicts of strangers.
But here’s the real thing, when we mess up, almost no one will be looking or caring very much. Society is busy and overwhelmed with what they are doing and its impacts. So our tragedies don’t occupy society the way we fear they will. Instead, a few people might notice momentarily, then swiftly move on to the next thing.
We often forget that we are at the center of the galaxy only in our own minds. Other people mostly don’t care what happens to us or our actions. The world is still filled with humans who haven’t heard of us and never will. Those who might be angry or disappointed with you now will have forgotten all about you soon enough.
Your disgrace will, in time, be subsumed within the more significant amnesia of a consolingly indifferent world.
Our fear of being judged is one of the central sources of our unhappiness. We spend so much of our lives fearing for our reputations and wondering what others will think of us when we fail.
But the truth is, we will fail at points. It’s part of the human experience. Our most significant errors and embarrassments will eventually be forgotten and overshadowed by the larger amnesia of an indifferent world.
Yes,
This realization could be so much terrifying and comforting. It is also scary because this means we are alone in our experiences. But it is the truth. We are the only ones who understand our struggles and pains genuinely. And it is so relieving because it allows us to free ourselves from the opinions of others. Then we can openly embrace our mistakes and failers and accept them as a part of our life.
The simple but powerful lesson I’m trying to convey is to live without continuous fear of being judged.
What good will it bring to us if we only concern about what others think about us and not living for ourselves?
Take risks, gamble with fear of failure, and pursue your dreams. Everything is just a natural part of the journey toward success.
