Inspiration and Life

You Can Help Someone Change

The secret to changing others

Bill Abbate
ILLUMINATION
Published in
6 min readNov 18, 2022

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Is it possible to “make” another person change? If you have tried, you know it is not an easy thing to do. Some insist it is impossible to change someone else, but some do not agree. Not only is it possible, but it is more straightforward than you may realize. All you need is the secret.

Let’s look at this secret and how you can use it.

Making others change

You have heard it a thousand times, “You can’t make someone change.” It makes sense since you have no control over them or their behavior.

Note there is a difference between making someone change and coercing or forcing them to do something. You cannot make them change their minds or want to change other than by duress, which is no way to treat another person.

Only they have the power to change themselves if they want. I bet you wonder, “How is it possible to change them then?

While you can’t force another person to change, there is a way to create change in them, essentially accomplishing the same effect.

Helping others change

During my career and life, I have helped many people change. Some of them did…

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Bill Abbate
ILLUMINATION

Leadership Writer and Editor in ILLUMINATION, Leadership/Executive Coach, Author www.BillAbbate.com