You Will Absolutely Fall In Love With ‘ME’
Finding the me in the you!
I was in a very enlightening conversation with an uber driver recently. We were chatting away about his arranged marriage. We talked about a number of things and I asked him if the idea of falling in love and saying. “I love you,” wasn’t important to him.
His response was, “My wife and I don’t talk about falling in love, we talk about friendship.” He is in friendship with his bride and they are so connected.
They have a powerful connection and are ‘IN LOVE’ with being together in this beautiful friendship. Getting to know each other more every day.
Sustainable love
We continued to engage and I realized something very powerful. His upbringing and his nurturing had fostered great self-love. His wife and himself had both learned how to love themselves practically, surrounded by community and the richness of culture. They loved themselves in what I may call — a divine sort of way.
They really loved themselves first. The more I heard, the more I recognized my own journey. Not the arranged marriage part but the ‘loving themselves first’ part. This conversation fortified my pursuits.
Well, this gentleman and his wife are both from the same community possessing the same inherent values. WOW! This began to look a lot like a recipe for sustainable love.
The authenticity of character was so evident as he spoke. Humbly striving to represent the best part of his ancestry. He exuded a gentle and unstated pride and strength.
I felt inspired and had a very soothing and sweet feeling on the inside of myself about continuing on my ‘falling in love with me journey’ — Reading it out loud makes it sound a little silly, but it is actually quite empowering. This opportunity to really understand and typify self-love evokes healing and a formidable alliance and awareness of one’s needs.
You have heard of sustainable income — well, this framework was developed by economist Roefie Heuting. Sustainable Income is consistent and steady over time. Yes!
Well, Sustainable Love does the same sort of thing. It offers sustainability but only when it starts with finding the ‘ME’ in the you!
The loving ‘you’ first! In essence — Loving Your Neighbor As Yourself. Looking in the mirror and loving you, and not just scrutinizing your outer appearance one way or the other.
Good article below by E.B.Johnson about self-love. I really appreciated this piece.
I think of my heritage and my culture before the segue to the new world via the ships, before the dominant culture, before the imposed morals and values and indoctrination of the others and I so appreciated my time with this driver.
I resonated so much with the chat I had with him that day. In many ways, we are as different as night and day, but yet sypmpatique as we spoke deeply of culture, ethnicity, and how very important it was to be connected to our people and then all people.
We eluded to ‘the others’ that are entrenched in the construct of a dominant culture. Those that don’t really have to consider giving thought to such a discussion.
The chameleon
That whole melting pot theory is great, but let’s not abandon ourselves — our culture. We want our children to fit in and assimilate to a certain extent, however, morphing into something else or shape-shifting can wreak havoc on ethnic culture.
The chameleon changes colors authentically but that is not the case for some of us who in spite of an acute amount of multigenerational and intergenerational infliction and affliction simply cannot change our color. Well — sadly one may argue that there is the skin tone bias oppression that causes many to use chemicals to lighten their skin.
Just a side step about skin lightening —
The causation or the etiology of this goes so far back. Skin bleaching is so harmful and inhibits the production of melanin or carbon the chemical key to life. Skin-lightening is like a self-inflicted form of chemical warfare.
There — now we’re back on track
I started to appreciate self-love more that day, not self-coddle or self-spoiling — well maybe sometimes — but Self Love! This amazing journey of loving my neighbor as myself. The operative or the denominator, the bottom number or the bottom line is ‘myself’.
You have found ‘the me in the you’.
I gotta tell you the truth. I think I’m falling for me — LOL!
Yes, let it be about me a good percentage of the time. That would be ‘you’ — yes, you are the ‘ME’.
Keep in mind, or as you may know, it’s not easy. However, the rewards are bountiful!!
That great innate self-love journey that you are about to embark on, or you are already on, will absolutely cause you to fall in love with ‘ME’
You will not only light up a room unintentionally but the people in your life will be in some awe mixed with a bit of covetousness as they too desire to pursue self-love. Are you ready to fall in love with ME?
Fait accompli!!
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