“You’d Be Perfect if You Were More Like Me”
And a word about those so-called “ambiverts”
When it comes to getting along with each other, especially when it comes to our personalities and style preferences (more on that in a New York minute), one of my favorites is how a partner, who is inexorably drawn naturally to an opposite, later on is full of complaint and criticism about how the very thing that drew them in (now Major Problem #1 in Our Relationship. In other words, you. Put simply.)
You may be familiar with Myers-Briggs (MBTI) Social Styles, DiSC and all the other colorful variations on Jungian archetypes. If so, likely I don’t have to tell you that we are often magnetically drawn to those whose skills, style and preferences complement, rather than compete, with our own. This is not to say that likes don’t attract and aren’t successful. Rather, we are often intrigued by the difference, as though some part of us yearns for that balance. This may be obvious or completely hidden.
This morning I read, as I often do, a piece by one of my favorite Medium writers Sean Kernan, about how he isn’t going to date an extrovert again.
