5 ways to get along with others, which are particularly “unpopular”, many people don’t know
There is an ancient saying: “When dealing with people, you must not just follow your own will, but you must understand their feelings; when you deal with the world, you must not just follow your own opinions, but you must understand the principles of things.”
When getting along with others, you can’t just do things based on your wishes and ideas, you also need to understand the other person’s situation and needs. When dealing with the world, you should not be too stubborn in your own opinions. You also need to be familiar with and follow the laws and principles of things.
To put it bluntly, a person’s true high emotional intelligence lies in understanding the truth of the world and people’s hearts, and only by acting on the truth of the world and people’s hearts can he be successful.
When getting along with others, these five actions are particularly unpopular, but unfortunately, many people don’t know it.
1. Mind other people’s business.
In the workplace, if you find that a colleague is encountering difficulties, take the initiative to help him. Not only are your colleagues ungrateful for your help, but they are also particularly disgusted.
You don’t understand, I mean so well, why am I still hated by my colleagues? Because you are nosy and trample on other people’s bottom lines, you will naturally be disgusted by others.
Others think this is my business, but you are interfering. Could it be that you want to control me?
As long as others have the idea that” you want to control them”, then others will have the emotion of “resistance”. In this way, the conflicts and contradictions between you and him will intensify.
In a human society, the best way to get along is to stay within the boundaries of the well. Anyone who fails to abide by this principle and does things that are not his duty will make enemies everywhere and will not be able to reap any good fruits.
2. Directly point out other people’s flaws and deficiencies.
If someone asks you whether his speech is good, how would you answer? If you are more serious and point out other people’s shortcomings, I believe others will hate you and think you don’t know how to behave.
On the contrary, you did not point out the shortcomings of others but praised others for what they said well here and what they said right there. If others think you are a good person, they will naturally have a good impression of you.
No matter when someone asks you whether a certain action of theirs is good or not, they do not want you to point out their shortcomings, but they want you to praise them and make them feel proud.
You may think, what’s so important about “face”? You don’t think it’s important, but others think it’s important. You know, most people have a strong “vanity.”
Try not to point out any flaws or shortcomings of others. The so-called “loyal advice is offensive to the ears”. Your loyal words and true words may ruin your popularity.
3. Show off and brag about yourself to others.
When you return to your hometown during the Chinese New Year, your relatives will ask you, how much money you make and whether you have a house or a car. What is the most appropriate response to these words from a relative?
Even if you have a house, a car, and savings, you still have to answer “living just average.” Because human nature is “unkind”. This is the truth as the saying goes, “There are no people who laugh, but there are people who hate.”
When others learn that you are not as good as they are, they will laugh at you. On the contrary, if others learn that you are living a better life than them, they will hate and dislike you.
In the circle of friends, you posted an update to show where you traveled. Those friends who don’t have money to travel will block your circle of friends and think your presence is particularly irritating.
When getting along with anyone, don’t show off or brag about yourself, just be an ordinary person in the eyes of others. Don’t forget, even if the trees are beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy them. If your behavior is higher than others, everyone will reject you.
4. Being too honest.
You might as well think about a question: Are honest people more popular, or are smooth people more popular? There is no doubt that smooth people are popular.
Being too honest is like a lamb waiting to be slaughtered in the eyes of others. In addition, honest people don’t know how to speak and offend people at every turn. Few people will like them.
Two young people are working in the unit. One young man is eloquent and can talk to everyone but not others. The other young man is honest and honest. He not only stutters but is also very timid.
Over time, colleagues and leaders will appreciate the former and exclude the latter. When meeting clients, the former is the main force, while the latter is just a hindrance and worthless, so who will accept them?
You might say, honest people are kind. Don’t kind people deserve respect from others? You are kind, this is your behavior. Whether others accept you or not is their choice. These two are impossible to defeat with eight poles.
5. Violate the interests of others.
It is said that people die for money and birds die for food. From ancient times to the present, every generation of human beings has lived for profit. Whoever affects the interests of others will become an enemy in the eyes of others.
Moving people’s interests is equivalent to killing their parents. The main contradiction in the human world is the conflict between the interests of all parties. It is precisely because of the existence of interests that human beings have the motivation to develop. It is precisely because of interests that human beings have various conflicts.
In the arena, you can quarrel with others, but you must not offend others’ vital interests. This is true for outsiders, and it is also true for relatives, even parents, brothers, and sisters.
Brothers and sisters will always fight against each other for their parents’ property. There was a scene of “Blood brothers, let’s settle accounts” . So, how can we say that we are outsiders?
Human nature is all about profit, there are not that many emotions, there aren’t that many relationships and there are just “compromises of interests”. Do not violate interests, this is the basic principle of human conduct.
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